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Why I Wear White 

I used to be afraid to wear white. I loved the way it looked on others, clean and crisp, but on myself, I thought all it did was exaggerate my flaws and make me look like a refrigerator. I did everything to remain inconspicuous back then, assuming that being noticed equaled being laughed at. Needless to say,  I never really wore much white. 



I think a lot of women have had similar feelings towards white. We are taught that it makes us look bigger, and we all know that’s the worst thing a person could ever be, right? Ugh… 


That’s the problem though… From very early on, as soon as the world realizes we’re fat, we are given this set of rules to live by, which are drilled into our brains so deeply that we forget how ridiculous they are, and we end up truly believing them. 



Society is sitting there thinking they’re doing us some wonderful favour by teaching us how not to look fatter than we already are, while its really they, who are in need of a lesson, oh, perhaps on how not to be a complete A-hole? Yeah. That sounds about right.


So I wear white proudly now. I wear it as two middle fingers to the rules that have been laid down by generations of self-loathing people before me who never knew the joy of unapologetic self-love.


I wear it because, unlike society, I don’t believe that looking bigger is among the greatest of all evils. 


And most of all, I wear it because I love it. I always have, and it makes me feel beautiful! 


No fictional set of rules will ever be able to convince me otherwise. I make my own rules about my bod, how I dress it, and nobody can take that away from me!!! 


Top, Tess Holliday for Penningtons – here 

Jean capris, Penningtons – similar 

Scarf, Penningtons – here 

Shoes, Aldo – here 

Clutch, Aldo – here 

VBO & A Burger In MTL 

It’s all happeniiing!!! Montréal + Fashion Week is going down this weekend (May 20th-22nd) and I am incredibly excited!!! 


Lots of you who are coming will be local Montrealers, but I know many of you will be stopping in from out of town, some for the first time, and it is a true pleasure for me, as well as the rest of the MTL + FW team to welcome you not only to this exciting event showcasing plus size fashion, beauty, and style, but to our beautiful city! 

Knowing that so many of you will be visiting got me thinking about all the best stuff my city has to offer! The Montreal Museum of Fine Arts, Saint Joseph’s Oratory, and Montreal’s historic Old Port, including a sandy beach in the middle of the city, just to name a few; but being the fat girl that I am, there is one aspect of this city that, even being born and raised here, still awes me — the food!!! 

I started feeling nostalgic and craving some classic Montreal fare, and one iconic spot that every Montrealer has been to, and if not, will definitely recognize, came immediately to mind! Gibeau Orange Julep, (AKA The Big Orange) of course!!! 


I haven’t been there since I was a kid, riding shotgun with my grandfather up to that gigantic orange dome for a cup of their frothy, milky, pulpy, orangey signature beverage, and I just had to go back! 


I slipped into a simple black maxi from Forever 21+, some cute gold gladiators, fringe earrings and my usual bobbles adorning my hands, and set out for a taste of my childhood…


The sun was shining on me as I sipped a julep, savoured a poutine, and sunk my teeth into a burger that if you’re from Montreal, just tastes like home. 

As I sat there reminiscing, I realized that I’ve come a long way since I was that young girl who loved cheeseburgers, but didn’t love herself… Back then I would have walked up to the counter with a hoodie tied around my waist to hide my visible belly outline, then hidden in the car to scarf down my food where nobody would notice me. 

This time, as I stood on the very ground where when last I stood, I was ashamed to exist, it felt like a celebration! Through plus size fashion, and becoming a part of the inspirational community of plus size bloggers and retailers that are changing the game for fat girls everywhere, stepping out with my VBO in plain sight to enjoy some greasy, glorious food at a picnic table in front of the world, was not only one of life’s little pleasures that I had long missed out on, but a sweet victory over the insecurities of my past.

When I said I was excited about Montréal + Fashion Week, it may have been an understatement, because I can’t even put into words just how proud I am to see an event like this take place in my beloved city, let alone be a part of it! 

I look forward to seeing all the beautiful faces in attendance this weekend, and whether you’re a Montreal girl, like myself, or in town to take it all in, I hope you know just how much your support of this event, and the plus size industry as a whole, means to me! 


If you haven’t gotten your tickets yet, it’s not too late! You can purchase them here. You can also visit the Montréal + Fashion Week website for more info and details on the event at www.montrealplusfashionweek.com


Dress, Forever 21+ – here 

Sandals, Forever 21 – here 

Earrings, Forever 21 –similar 

Rings, Forever 21 – here 

Bracelet, Penningtons – similar

Material (Fat) Girl

It’s not everyday you get to dress like Madonna—I mean, for me it isn’t anyway, (although I suppose I could if I really wanted to) but I’m always looking for an excuse! 

Imagine my glee upon finding out that the fabulous Beth Ditto, singer, plus size model, and lover of all things vintage, was launching a collection this February; and as a little “aperçu,” had teamed up with none other than Jean Paul Gaultier on a limited edition, collaboration t-shirt dress, featuring his iconic cone-bra bustier, worn by thee original Material Girl herself in the 90s, and whose image is etched permanently in the brains millenials everywhere! 

I had to splurge!!! I HAD have one!!! 

   
   

Not even the most bitterly cold temperatures and blisteringly frigid winds could stop me from showing it off and striking a pose today!  

   

I paired it with some awesome striped tights from Addition Elle, and my vintage Burberry trench…

   
 

But this tee is definitely the main attraction… 

  
   

 

 
Especially with its adorably sexy lace-up back, complete with the printed signatures of Ditto and Gaultier peeking out through the strings! 

  
  

A little gold bling, and my black patent flatforms sealed this whole look with a sassy little kiss of perfection…

  
  
  

And all I can say is, Vogue. 

  

T-shirt dress, Beth Ditto & Jean Paul Gaultier – here 

Tights, Addition Elle – here 

Trench, Burberry – vintage, new here

Shoes, ASOS – old, but love these

French Curves: SUÈDE

  
Bonjour !!! It’s the 16th of the month again, which means it’s time for the French Curves Challenge – an outfit photo challenge with the French touch, created by the beautiful, Vanoue, of The Curvy and Curly Closet

If you don’t speak French, fear not, my dears! As always, an English translation will follow, just scroll on down!!! 

Il est encore le 16 du mois !!! Temps pour un nouveau French Curves Challenge – la collaboration entre les blogueuses francophones de taille plus, crée par la belle, Vanoue, de The Curvy and Curly Closet

Le thème ce mois-ci: SUÈDE

Avec la tendance 70s de retour avec force, le suède est partout dans la mode cette automne. 

Riche en texture, il apporte un élément chic et de luxe à votre garde-robe, et même si on l’associe beaucoup avec les années 70s, quand mélanger avec des pièces plus modernes, le suède peut facilement s’intégrer dans n’importe quelle tenue ! 

Pour le défi, j’ai choisi deux pièces différents — ce joli veste en suédine (Ok oui, je triche un peu, mais chhhut !) de Penningtons, et ces beaux petit flâneurs en suède jaune vif de Figure First, qui sont de seconde main, mais en état parfait. 

   

   
Ensemble, avec une combinaison hyper moderne, d’une robe rayée en noir et blanc d’Addition Elle, et mes jeans préféré… 

   

   
Des accessoires qui contrastent, comme ce collier épais en chaîne de Ready To Stare et mon sac Louis Vuitton classique… 

   

 Ces pièces en suède laissent les années 70s derrière, en échange pour un look contemporain et super charmant ! 

   

   
N’oubliez pas de jeter un coup d’œil à tous les superbe looks en suède de les autres French Curvettes iciainsi que sur Facebook, et Instagram aussi ! Et rappelez-vous d’utiliser le hashtag #FrenchCurvesOOTD et #FlightOfTheFatGirl sur tout vos looks de mode!!! 

  

And now for the English version!

The theme this month: SUEDE 

With the 70s trend back in full force, suede is everywhere in fashion right now! 

Rich in texture, it brings a chic and luxurious element to your wardrobe; and even if we tend to associate it with the 70s, when mixed with more modern pieces, suede can integrate easily into any outfit. 

For the challenge, I chose two different pieces — this pretty faux-suede jacket (ok yes, I’m cheating, but shhhhh!) from Penningtons, and these cute, thrifted little yellow suede loafers from Figure First, which are second hand, but in perfect shape. 

Together, with an ultra modern combo of this striped dress from Addition Elle, and my fave pair of jeans… 

Accessories that contrast, like this thick chain necklace from Ready To Stare, and my classic Louis Vuitton bag

These suede pieces leave the 70s behind in exchange for a contemporary and super charming look! 

Be sure to check out the fab suede looks from all the other French Curvettes here, as well as on Facebook, and Instagram too!!! And remember to use the hashtags #FrenchCurvesOOTD and #FlightOfTheFatGirl on all your style pics!!! 

Veste/jacket, Penningtons – ici/here 

Robe/dress, Addition Elle – ancien/old 

Jeans, Penningtons – similaire ici/similar here

Chaussures/shoes, Figure First – beaucoup de pièces disponibles ici/many pièces available here 

Collier/necklace, Ready To Stare – ici/here 

Sac/bag, Louis Vuitton – ici/here 

In Stylzoo 

Every year I get really excited about fall fashion — the layering, the boots,  the rich, deep colours, and did I mention the layering? 

Navy blue will forever be one of my favourite fall shades. It offers all the benefits of wearing black (and no, I’m not talking “flattering,” I’m talking versatility), while actually bringing a little colour to the table. 

  
This navy wrap dress from Stylzoo is total perfection! It hugs my curves beautifully, and I’m seriously feeling the sexy V neckline! 

  
    
 I paired it with a this super chic, longline blazer from Penningtons…

   
And threw on my trusty, grey combat boots, to complete my look’s military-meets-90s-grunge inspired attitude.  

  
I decided to be bold and pick up on the tones in the lining of my boots, and accessorize with my emerald green Kate Spade Clutch, silver and pastel blue earrings, and my most daring lippie yet, a deep teal/green shade called Dr. M, from ColourPop Cosmetics! 

 

  
 I love how refreshing the mix of classic and edgier elements turned out to be! 
  
Armed with great pieces like my Stylzoo wrap dress, and adventurous lipstick shades like this one, I am definitely fall fashion ready! 

Dress, Stylzoo – here 

Blazer, Penningtons- sold out online, may still be available in store 

Lippie, ColourPop Cosmetics- here 

NYC Takeover, a Last Minute Outfit, and The CurvyCon 

Has this ever happened to you…? You have an event to attend, you’ve picked out a killer ensemble, and then at the last minute, it looks like it might rain, so your whole outfit game gets thrown off and you’ve gotta come up with something cute, and fast!!! 

That’s exactly what happened to me while I was in New York with my husband last weekend, on the day of The CurvyCon, because being drenched in a pink tutu in the middle of Manhattan just didn’t seem like a solid plan for attending an event like this day long convention for bloggers, fashion lovers, and curvy girls alike, created by thee Chastity Garner Valentine, of Garner Style

I did, however have a fabulous back up plan, which honestly, ended up being one of my favourite, most effortless looks yet — and even though it didn’t actually end up raining, I regret nothing!!! 

  

 
I paired a great pair of dark wash skinnies with one of my fave new tees, and a fab striped blazer from Penningtons. I love how chic these three pieces looked together — you could hardly even tell that I was completely frazzled about what to wear only moments before! 
   
 

With the addition of the most adorable printed espadrille flatforms from ASOS, my new Tom Ford specs, some minimalist gold threader earrings from Forever 21, a gorgeous kelly green Kate Spade clutch, and la pièce de la résistance — this freakin’ amazeballs car ring from Ready to Stare, I walked through the revolving doors of my hotel feeling like I owned the city! 

   
   
Once again, we hit the streets in style with my blogger boo, of Tall Tales by Ramona O, and we grabbed brunch and got in a little photo shoot! 
   
     
And check out how handsome my photographer — errr… My hubby looked!!! 

 
      
  
After that, we hailed a cab and headed off to The CurvyCon! It was awesome to bump dimpled elbows with some of our favourite fellow plus size bloggers, models, business women, celebs like my boo thang, Sabrina Servance of Lifetime’s Big Women Big Love, and the stunning Amber Riley, best known for her role as Mercedes Jones on Glee, as well as check out showcases from some awesome brands like Fashion To Figure, Rebdolls, and the breakout line Eleven60, which, can I just say — go on now, take my money!!! 

The day was full of giggles, hugs and selfies! The hubs even snapped this awesome, super awful photo of Ramona and I once we got inside! Haha! I promise you, we are not as unhappy as we look, just feeling that NYC humidity! Hehee! I had to share! 😛

  
I was looking and feeling cute in my last minute getup, and I would have had it any other way!!! 

Be sure to check out Ramona’s post about our NYC takeover, here!

Jeans, Penningtons – here 

T-shirt, Penningtons – here 

Blazer, Penningtons – sold out (wahhh!) 

Shoes, ASOS – sold out, but a whole bunch of similar styles here

Clutch, Kate Spade – similar 

Car ring, Ready To Stare – several styles here 

Confident to the Maxi

 

I remember when I first really noticed a woman in a maxi dress. It was sometime during the mid 2000s, and she had “the perfect body” (or at least the body I hadn’t realized yet, wasn’t the only kind anyone thought was beautiful). I’m sure I had seen others before her, sashaying about in ankle-length dresses, but this girl just caught my attention. In my still unaccepting-of-my-own-body mind, she was everything I wished I could be. Slim, large-breasted, beautiful, and she seemed to almost float along in that long, flowy dress like nothing else mattered but her and the breeze that lifted her hem every now and again, to reveal her ultra chic gladiator sandals, and perfect pedicure… 

She was noticeable, right down to her bohemian, beaded necklace, and bangles that slid all the way up her slender arms, to her elbows when she lifted her hand to brush the hair from her face. 

I realize now, all these years later, that what I was so captivated by wasn’t this girl’s seemingly perfect silhouette, but rather, her confidence. 

I never would have guessed then, that I could feel as good as she looked in that dress… I never could have imagined that her intoxicating vibe was something that I could have for my very own… But now I see it. Now, finally after all these years, I love my body, and when I step out the door in a gorgeous maxi dress, I know I look just as striking as she did. I know I walk with the same ease and carelessness as I remember her doing so well… And I know others see it too. 

See, it’s not about having the perfect body. It’s not about having slim arms, or large breasts. None of those things will ever give you the intangible quality that I couldn’t quite pin down, until I experienced what self-love truly was for myself. 

That woman felt beautiful, and that’s what drew me to her. I feel beautiful, and that’s what was shining through when I wore this stunning maxi from SexyPlus Clothing.

Once I stepped into it, I didn’t want to take it off, so I decided to take my look from day to night! 

For daytime, I paired it with pretty, embellished sandals, sunnies, a straw hat, gold bangles (of course) and my Lilly Pulitzer for Target straw bag (my only score from the great Lilly for Target fiasco/triumph). 

   
     And for my evening look, I switched out my sandals, hat, and beach bag for a cute pair of cork wedges, a vintage clutch, a great necklace, and a fab black tuxedo style bolero from SexyPlus, and headed off for a date night with my hubby! 

   

   

Maxi dresses are super versatile, and really transition well from day to evening. This particular one is so fun, because it combines animal print and paisley, for a really fun combination of wild and classic. 

Just a little note, I actually sized down in this dress, as it is made very generously, but I would recommend ordering your usual size if you’re particularly boobalicious (which I’m not). I have very big hips, and as you can see, even when sizing down, the cut is roomy. 

So, while I must admit, I still yearn for a set of bangles that can actually slide all the way up to my elbows (seriously, where can I get some of those?)… I feel pretty f*cking fabulous in this dress!!!  

I can say with a huge degree of certainty, that if I had known then, back when I first saw that woman looking effortlessly cool in her maxi, that the greatest detail of her outfit was her confidence, my life would have gone a lot differently… But the important thing is that one fine day, I did learn her secret. I did start to love myself, and now, I can rock a maxi like nobodies business, and it feels glorious!!! 

Because you’re all so amazing, please use, code FREEFLIGHT to get free shipping from SexyPlus from now till May 25th 2015! Don’t miss out! This dress is still available in this print, as well as in a couple of others!!!

Dress, SexyPlus – here or other prints, here & here 

Tuxedo bolero, SexyPlus – here or similar, here