Tagged: stretch marks

Lower Belly Love

I have a confession to make… Although  y’all know I’m all about that self-love, I’ve had a really hard time making peace with my lower belly for most of my life… 

This shouldn’t come as any kind of surprise if you’ve been following me for any good amount of time, I’ve said it before, but I think it’s important to keep bringing it up because it serves as a reminder for those of you who are struggling out there, that even the most body positive, fat accepting individuals still deal with self-doubt. We don’t exist in a bubble of unattainably heightened self-esteem contrary to how it seems on social media, and we all have our hang-ups just like anybody else. 


Most days I love my belly, and have no issues flaunting what I’ve got, but there are those times when I feel like it’s stopping me from being great. They’re usually fleeting moments, they come, I remind myself how my body deserves to exist as it is, and they go… but there is still one particular thing that I have a tough time with: allowing my lower belly to show while wearing pants. 


I’ve done it already and I was happy with how it looked, but I’m not going to lie, I definitely felt exposed. I refuse to let my I securities win though, so just like I’ve challenged myself to accept other parts of my body that I’ve been conditioned to believe were flaws, I continue to push myself out of my comfort zone and wear clothes that push my own personal boundaries in the best possible way! 


The pairing of this nude mesh bodysuit and lace-up jeggings by Nadia Aboulhosn for Addition Elle do definitely that. On their own, Wearing these pieces wouldn’t be such a personal challenge for me. I could wear the bodysuit under a skirt, or wear a long top with the jeans and hide my lower belly with ease… but no. Seeing these two pieces together inspired me to confront my lingering belly insecurities, and the outcome was pure fierceness!!! It totally erased any feelings of self-doubt. It’s so perfect, so chic, and most of all, unapologetic AF!



I love the nude mesh because it’s almost like going topless, and the lace-up details on the jeans are sooo sexy!!! I topped it off with another piece from Nadia’s collection which just happens to be one of my favourite accessories ever, this super cute and totally practical plus size fanny pack! 




When it comes to overcoming our insecurities, we tend to leave the toughest hurdles till last, but with my bodysuit obviously tucked into my pants, and not even a purse to hide behind, I flaunted my belly like nobody’s business, and took one more very much needed step towards total body love! 


Bodysuit, Nadia Abouhosn for Addition Elle – here 

Jeggings, Nadia Aboulhosn for Addition Elle – here 

Fanny Pack, Nadia Aboulhosn for Addition Elle – similar (sort of)

Shoes, Aldo – similar  

About That Athleisure Life

Every now and again, a new trend hits the scene that manages to combine style and comfort in the best possible way. The latest of these trends to really tickle my fancy: athleisure


It’s a little sporty, a little fancy, and a lot perfect. The combination of athletic pieces like baggy sweats & sneakers, with more luxurious fabrics, all topped off with some bling just speaks to my soul in a way that very few styles do. 

These joggers from ASOS are probably among the most interesting pieces in my wardrobe right now. I mean, faux sweatshirt arms are both the strangest and best thing I’ve seen in a long time. Like, really though… they’re super weird, but I’m kind of obsessed. 



Also, they are the perfect thing for rocking with a dressy, structured crop top as an unapologetic homage to the very apologetic 90s hoodie-around-the-waist style from my teens that I wore very strategically to hide my exposed belly from a society that didn’t approve of it, and that I hadn’t yet learned to just tell to fuck off. 


The sweats, this gorgeous crop top, and soft jersey longline vest are the ultimate pieces for  a little fall warmth and layered style. 



Paired with my beloved gold chain necklace from Ready To Stare, hoop earrings, and these sexy nude sneakers from Aldo, this look is the definition of what athleisure is all about, with the added bonus of challenging societal beauty standards as well. 


Athleisure may not be for everyone, but it is definitely one of my fave fall trends! It combines all of the things my fashion loving soul likes best, with the comfort of athletic wear. These days, there are very few things I value more when it comes to how I dress, than comfort that requires no sacrifice, or limitations on style, and athleisure is definitely the business! 


Sweatpants, ASOS – here 

Vest, Addition Elle – similar 

Crop Top, ASOS – here 

Necklace, Ready To Stare – here 

Sneakers, Aldo – here 

Can I Get A Do Over?

When I look back upon my younger days, my angsty, early teenage years play in my head like old yearbook slideshow on a school projector screen. Images of dark lipstick, sticky eye makeup, and blonde hair with dark roots flip to a grungy 90s soundtrack of alternative rock, and I can’t help but feel nostalgic. 

I’m not gonna lie, I don’t think I could pull off most of my nineties looks anymore even if I wanted to… Let’s just say, my days of greasy hair and beaten up skater shoes are behind me, but I have been finding myself drawing a lot of inspiration from the grunge trend that is in full force this fall! 

Dark roots for example… Um, yeah— got that covered. Peeling nail polish, check! If there’s one thing about 90s style that I love, it’s how low maintenance you can be and still get away with looking trendy! Also, eyegloss is now a thing. That’s right! I no longer need to fight with my mom or get turned down by a boy (story of my 90s life) to get that trademark just-broken-up-with, been-crying-all-day  look! If only I had known that  I had to do was slap some gloss on my eyes, and finish up with a deep burgundy lip to look perfectly, gorgeously, existential. 


I wore a lot of men’s clothes back then (mostly because I couldn’t fit into a lot of the women’s stuff that I liked), so my grandfather’s old Burberry trench and scarf (which incidentally, have lived through the 90s just like me) are a definite homage to that. Besides, they look freaking gorge over this stunning cutout dress from SmartGlamour!


Its silhouette is reminiscent of the 90s slip dresses that I never wore because they showed too much belly, and the cutouts are a shoutout to the bare midriff that never had the courage to show off when every girl and her BFF were rocking crop tops! 


Also, Jennifer Anniston on any episode of Friends will confirm, going braless was also pretty big in the 90s, so I had to keep things authentic (any excuse not to wear a bra, basically). 


As much as a pair of Doc Martens would have worked with this outfit, I didn’t wanna go full grunge, so I slipped on a pretty pair of lace up flats to complete my 90s inspired look!  

It makes me feel super old, but I love that the iconic style I grew up with is cool again. I also love how it’s been stripped down to its dirty, dingy core, and has come back minus the butterfly clips (not gonna pretend I’m not relieved). So give me all the 90s Gwen Stefani, Alanis Morrissette and Courtney Love vibes, because I think it’s about time that teenage me got a style do over!!! 

Dress, SmartGlamour – here (use discount code CynthiaSG for 10% off any SmartGlamour purchase, plus free shipping)

Trench, scarf – vintage Burberry 

Shoes, Aldo – similar 

The Girl Who Dates Her Own Body 

I love my body. I didn’t always, but this pasty white, jiggly mass of flesh and bones that is the vessel of my consciousness, we’re cool now. 


It’s a good thing too, because this bod and I, are kind of stuck with each other. We may as well get along… After all, life is a lot easier when you’re in a mutually beneficial relationship, especially when it’s the one you share with yourself!



I used to avoid taking my body out to certain places. I didn’t want to be seen in public with it. I was ashamed. This hurt my body very much. It also hurt me. I began to resent it. I wished it looked better. I wished I had a different one. 


I didn’t like eating in out because I would worry that my body might not fit into the booths. I worried that people would stare at us as we ate. I rarely went to places like the pool, or the beach. I couldn’t bear the thought of people seeing my body in a bathing suit. 


I wanted to love it. I wanted to be able to look at my body and like what I saw, the same way everyone on TV and in magazines seemed to be able to. I just didn’t hadn’t yet realized that the answer wasn’t that I needed to change my body, but rather, I needed to change the way I saw it.  

I started looking for beauty in the parts of my body I had convinced myself weren’t beautiful. I began looking, and I mean, really looking at it in the mirror and in photographs, and changing the language I used to describe it. I started feeding it the foods it liked without worrying about their calorie count. I stopped treating my body like it deserved to be constantly punished for looking different than the way the movie stars and magazines told me it should. 

Now I take my body out on dates. We go to restaurants, movies, and out for ice cream in public together. We don’t care who sees us. We’re in love. 



We even go to the beach together… In a bikini… After hiding my body for all this time, it deserves to feel the warmth of the sunlight, and the caress of the beachside breeze.  


We’re so in tune with each other, my body and I, that we’ve basically become one… I mean, one could argue that we always have been, but it sure didn’t feel that way for most of my life. 


You see, I spent most of it telling myself how good I would look if only I had a better body, how I wished I could have somebody else’s— how much I hated it. The disassociation I made between my body and self became my reality. I separated myself from it as an act of self-preservation, and it took me all these years to get up the courage to apologize to my body for how badly I had treated it, and promise to it, that I would never let myself do that again. 


So to you, I may just look like a fat girl on the beach, strutting around showing off my swim body in a floral bikini, and on the surface, you’d be right… But if you dig a little deeper, what you’ll really see, is the foundation of a newly rekindled relationship between a once very broken girl, and her body, that never was. 

A big thank you to this bikini babe for these awesome shots!!! (Except for this one, which I can thank my mum for!)


Bikini, GabiFresh for Swimsuits For All – here 

Sandals, ASOS – similar 

Cover up, Zellers – old AF (Zellers doesn’t event exists anymore, haha)

French Curves: TOTAL LOOK BLANC 

  
It’s the 16th of the month, y’all!!! Pour yourselves a glass of Chardonnay, grab yourselves a tasty baguette, and sit back and enjoy another fab French Curves post — the outfit photo challenge with the French touch, created by the splendid Vanoue of The Curvy and Curly Closet!

The theme this month: TOTAL WHITE LOOK!!!

As per usual, an English translation will follow! 

Il est encore une fois le 16 du mois, alors versez-vous un bon verre de chardonnay, et procurez-vous une bonne baguette bien savoureuse, relaxez-vous et enjoy une autre édition fabuleuse du French Curves Challenge, crée par la splendide Vanoue de The Curvy and Curly Closet ! 

Le thème ce mois-ci: TOTAL LOOK BLANC !!! 

  
 

Dans le défi du mois dernier, ne sachant pas ce que le thème de ce mois-ci serait, j’ai porté une magnifique robe blanche. Donc, quand le thème de ce mois a été annoncé, je me suis dit, oh oh !

  

Mais alors, un miracle de la mode a eu lieu !!! La collection capsule  GARNERSTYLE pour Rebdolls est sorti, et tous mes soucis ont simplement évaporé dans les airs !

  

Depuis le moment que je posé les yeux sur ce pantalon blanc à jambe large, et ce crop top aux épaules dénudées, je savais que je devais les avoir !

  

  

Honnêtement, si je n’étais pas déjà marié, cette tenue certainement aurait pu être ma ” robe” de mariage ! Voilà littéralement a quel point je l’aime !!!

  
 

En toute sincérité, Chastity Garner a vraiment frappé un coup de circuit avec cette collection ! Les vibes nautiques, les silhouettes décadents — elle a réussi, et tout ce que je peux dire c’est, OUIIIIIIIIII !!! 

  
In last month’s challenge I wore a gorgeous white dress, not knowing what this month’s theme would be. So when this month’s theme was announced, I said, uh oh! 
 
But then, a fashion miracle occurred!!! The GARNERSTYLE for Rebdolls capsule collection dropped, and all my worries just evaporated into thin air!  

  
From the moment I laid eyes on these wide leg white pants, and off-the-shoulder crop top, I knew I had to have them! 

  
Honestly, if I wasn’t already married, this outfit definitely could have been my wedding “dress!” That’s literally how much I love it. 

    
In all seriousness though, Chastity Garner really knocked this collection outta the park! The nautical vibes, decadent silhouettes — she did that, and all I can say is, YASSSSS!!! 


Vous pouvez decouvrir les contributions de toutes les French Curvettes ici, ainsi que sur la page Facebook et Instagram @frenchcurvesfashion !

You can discover all of the French Curvettes’ contributions here, as well as on Facebook and Instagram @frenchcurvesfashion

Pantalon, GARNERSTYLE pour Rebdolls – ici 

Crop top, GARNERSTYLE pour Rebdolls- ici 

Pochette, Aldo – ici 

Chaussures, Shoes of Prey – ici 

Pants, GARNERSTYLE for Rebdolls – here 

Crop top, GARNERSTYLE for Rebdolls- here 

Clutch, Aldo – here 

Shoes, Shoes of Prey – here

Boss B*tch

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A new attitude has come over me lately… I don’t know if it’s my new haircut, or if I’ve just finally realized how strong a woman I actually am… Maybe it’s a combination of the two; but one thing is for sure – I’m living my life my way and I’m doing it like a boss.

As women, (especially fat women) we’re constantly questioning ourselves. Can I do this? Is she better than me? What if he doesn’t like me? Am I pretty enough? Do these jeans make me look fat? Will they laugh at me? What if I fail? And the reality is, life is some really scary sh*t – but most of us are doing just fine.

We try so hard, only to worry that we haven’t tried hard enough, and sometimes we just need to take a step back and realize that we’re doing a damn good job at this whole existence thing!!!

When it all comes down to it, you don’t have to answer to any single mortal being in this world but yourself. You are your rule maker, your rule breaker and nobody can tell you how you should feel, so own it! Allow yourself to be proud that you’ve made it this far!

Be the boss b*tch you were born to be!!!

In honour of my recent attitude adjustment, I’m wearing a dope crop top from Rebdolls (formerly Custom Plus), paired with a textured skirt from Penningtons, a little bling from Forever 21, and this fab, cropped sweatshirt from Addition Elle – the perfect look to express my feelings of empowerment.

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Crop top, Rebdolls – similar styles here
Skirt, Penningtons – here
Sweatshirt, Addition Elle – here
Necklace, Forever 21 – here
Earrings, Forever 21 – here

Sexy Lips And A Fabulous Fatkini

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Well, I’ve been working up the courage to actually get out there and do a photo shoot in swimwear, and believe me, the struggle has been real! So real, that this amazing Sexy Lips midkini from swimsuitsforall.com has been sitting in a drawer since I purchased it at the beginning of the summer.

But I’ve been so inspired by bloggers like Garner Style, who rocked the hell out of a black and white bikini (and made me fall in love with round sunglasses & body chains and was totally the inspiration for my look today), as well as my amazing followers who are so confident and gorgeous, that it was about time that I face my fat girl fears, and do a photo shoot in my very own fatkini!!!

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I’ve paired it with two separate, but matching, black, sheer coverup pieces, which I love the idea of, because this way you can cover up less or more depending on the heat of the sun, or how cool the breeze is too. Also, it allows for a more modest option without sacrificing style, if, as was my experience at a beach resort in Haiti, you are required to cover up on top to go into a beachfront restaurant.

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No swimwear look would be complete without the right accessories, so I went with my favourite gold, metallic flip flops, big gold hoops, my bangles, (no surprise there) and this fantastic body chain from Forever 21 (note, this is not a plus size piece, so I removed the chain link that connected the two shoulder pieces in the back and replaced it with a longer chain for a better fit).

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It really took a lot for me to share these photos with all of you; and I only hope that I can inspire someone who, like me, felt that she wasn’t “perfect” enough to be seen this way. I hope to show that regardless of stretch marks, cellulite, and fat rolls, we can still be beautiful, confident, and enjoy a day at the beach, or an afternoon, poolside like me, in our own backyards, just as any other woman would.

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I’m truly am feeling fabulous and empowered in my fatkini and this definitely won’t be my last one!!!

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Thank you to all who’ve inspired me – this is something I never could have dreamed I would have been confident enough to share, and I feel AMAZING!!!

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I Am Woman, Hear Me "Rawr"

Yay! The big day has come!!! What day, you ask? Why, the day I finally get to wear the incredibly sexy “Tricia” dress from Monif C. of course!!!

I’ve been obsessing over this dress since it was first posted in January for pre-sale, and I haven’t stopped coveting it since. At first I had reservations. I loved it, but wasn’t sure how I felt about the idea of a crop top. I know they’re all the rage right now, and I think they look super sexy, but I couldn’t cease thinking – how is a dress with a crop top going to look on the tummy of a mum of four who’s covered in stretch marks?

So, I went back and forth on the idea for a little while and then finally decided – so what if I have stretch marks!? I’ve been working so hard to accept my body and love the skin I’m in; am really going to let the insecurities I have about my stretch marks stop me when I’ve already come so far!? They are the product of carrying each of my four children in my womb – four little humans who depended on me, and still do, to live. They remind me of the sacrifices that I’ve made for my family and of how, no matter what happens, I gave life to four beautiful beings who are, and always will be a part of me and who I love with a love that is stronger than any other force imaginable. To be ashamed of my stretch marks is to be ashamed of my four greatest accomplishments and nothing about that makes sense.

In a way, this dress and my desire for it, somehow managed to push me to face a fear, to let go of my inhibitions and accept just one more aspect about my body that I had been insecure about. I don’t know if it was the fierce turquoise and tan animal print or the bodycon style that Monif C. dresses do so well, but it made me realize that this tiger momma has earned her stripes and I’m not gonna hide them anymore!!!

Rawr!!!