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Be My Valentine?

I’ve never done a lingerie post before… 

  
The idea of putting my body out there to be picked apart, and being judged and slut shamed in the process has been something that has held me back and made me think that this type of post just wasn’t for me…

  
Then this sexy little number, a leopard print chemise from SexyPlus came my way, and it got me thinking… 

  
With each fear I’ve conquered, I’ve become more powerful. I’ve become stronger, and more confident. I’ve gotten to know more about who I am, and what I deserve. 

  
Sure, not everyone will approve. This will definitely ruffle a few feathers… 

  
Many will judge, because that’s just what people do…

   

  
But… The reality is, I spent a lifetime hiding—sometimes to the point of physical discomfort, just to spare the world’s eyes of the parts of me that I felt were so appalling, that nobody should see. 

  

  
So if this makes you uncomfortable, I’m not sorry. I’m not sorry because I don’t have to be… I never did, and I know that now.

  

  
I don’t need to show my body in order to prove anything to anyone. What feels empowering for me may not be what empowers you, and that’s okay… I choose to show it…  Not all of it, but most, because I have nothing to prove, but to myself, that I can be vulnerable, unapologetic, and not give a shit what anyone thinks of me. This is my own personal challenge. My body, my choice. 

  
I’m not what society calls, a good fatty. I have rippled inner thighs, and a stretch mark covered belly that hangs down. I have sagging breasts, a double chin, and arms that jiggle when I raise them…

  
But I’m beautiful. 

I’m worthy. 

Right down to my back fat and dimpled butt. 

  
So this year, I have asked myself, will you be my valentine? 

As much as I love my husband, and thank him dearly for snapping these gorgeous shots that have made me feel so bold and strong… My answer to myself is, yes!

  
Yes I will be my valentine, because sometimes self-love deserves to be celebrated too, and this Valentine’s Day, that’s exactly what I’m going to do. 

Happy Valentine’s Day!!! ❤️

  
Chemise, SexyPlus Clothing – here 

Bra, Hips & Curves – here

Panties, Hips & Curves – here 

1 Body Chain, 2 Ways, and 2 Countries 

When I was away in Haiti last August, I managed to sneak in one one photo shoot. I never published the pictures, but there’s a reason why…

  

  

   
Everything was perfect—my Monif C. fringed swimsuit, my ASOS sandals, and of course, my Ready To Stare body harness… 

   

 
    

 

  

  
 
Perfect, except for the fact that I was wearing it wrong—because screwing up is kind of my thing… *sigh*

    

   

  

  

But the beach was exquisite, as was my beautiful fat bod in that suit, and honestly, even though I wore it wrong, the chain body harness actually looked pretty amazing this way too! 

   

  

  
So, I decided to shoot some fab pics back home in Canada, wearing it the right way this time (Duh!) with a fab Kiyonna dress from SexyPlus Clothing, to show everyone that you can definitely have some fun playing around with body chains! We’ll just keep the fact that this was a totally unintentional discovery between us, though… K?

  

  
  
   
 

We can also keep the fact that it took me nearly six months to get around to shooting the second half of this post… Because procrastination is also my thing…

  
  
  


But it all actually worked out, because the contrast between my natural, freckled skin under the golden Haitian sun, and my ultra glam look, set against the backdrop of an icy frozen lake, is truly quite amazing!
  

  
  

And the discovery that this body chain is much more versatile than I had ever expected was a definite bonus! 

  
  
  

Sure, I wish I was on a beach in Haiti again right now, after sifting through my vacation photos… But at least I know I have my body chain to add some pizazz to my swimsuits on my next trip, and until then, it can look just as awesome in the snow! 

  

Body harness, Ready To Stare – here 

Swimsuit, Monif C. – old

Sandals, ASOS – similar 

Dress, Kiyonna from SexyPlus – here 

Boots, SexyPlus Clothing – here 

Mittens, Little Burgundy – here 

French Curves: THE STATEMENT NECKLACE 

It’s the 16th of the month, and after being on a little break for a couple of months, I am once again ready to get back into the French Curves Challenge – an outfit photo challenge with the French touch, created by the stunning Vanoue, of The Curvy and Curly Closet!

If you don’t speak French, I’ve got you, boo! As always, an English translation will follow, just keep scrolling down!!! 

  
Il est encore le 16 du mois, et après quelques mois de pause, je suis prêt à nouveau à participer au French Curves Challenge – la collaboration entre blogueuses francophones de taille plus avec la touche française, crée par la ravissante Vanoue, de The Curvy and Curly Closet !

Le thème ce mois-ci: THE STATEMENT NECKLACE

   

Un collier audacieux a le pouvoir de compléter n’importe quel look. 

  

  

  
Quand vous portez un, il est la première chose que tout le monde voit quand ils regardent votre tenue, et comme son nom l’indique, il envoient un message très clair qui déclare, je suis fabuleuse et je m’en fous qui le sait !!!

   
Ce collier splendide a été fait à la main par Djénéba, une femme malienne, incroyablement talentueuse, qui fabrique des bijoux merveilleux avec des matériaux provenant de son pays natal. 

   
    

  
La fabrication méticuleuse de ses  précieux bijoux est sa plus grande passion dans la vie, est ce-ci est très évident si vous avez la chance de visiter sa “caverne” remplie jusqu’au bout de perles scitillantes qu’elle a procuré petit à petit avec chaque retour au Mali pour visiter avec sa famille.

  

  
  
     

J’ai laissé le collier être la vedette du tenue, et je l’ai porté avec un look très simple et chic, mais avec assez de panache pour lui faire honneur. 

    

     


Un simple legging noir, et ma tunique asymétrique en tissu léopard extra-fin par Nadia Aboulhosn pour Addition Elle sont les pièces parfaites pour complimenter cet accessoire impressionnant !

 
   

  

  

Dans le style de Nadia, une chaussure à talon met la touche finale sur le look. 

   
N’oubliez pas de jeter un coup d’œil à tous les statement necklaces de les autres French Curvettes ici, ainsi que sur Facebook, et Instagram aussi ! Aussi, rappelez-vous d’utiliser les hashtags #FrenchCurvesOOTD et #FlightOfTheFatGirl sur touts vos looks de mode !!!
 

The theme this month: THE STATEMENT NECKLACE

A statement necklace has the power to complete any look. 

When you wear one, it’s the first thing everyone sees when they look at your outfit, and as the name suggests, they send a very clear message that you’re fabulous, and I don’t care who knows it!!!

This necklace was hand made by Djénéba, an incredibly talented Malian woman who crafts gorgeous jewelry with materials purchased in her home country. 

The meticulous craftsmanship of her jewelry is her greatest passion in life, and it’s very evident if you ever have the chance to visit her “cavern” filled to the gills with sparkling beads which she’s gathered, little by little, with each trip home to Mali to visit her family. 

I let the necklace be the star of this outfit, and I paired it with a super simple, chic look, but with enough pizzazz to do it justice. 

Simple black leggings, and my sheer, asymmetrical, leopard print tunic by Nadia Aboulhosn for Addition Elle are the perfect pieces to compliment this striking accessory!

And in true Nadia style, a pair of heels put the final touch on the look. 

Be sure to check out the statement necklaces on all the other French Curvettes here, as well as on Facebook, and Instagram too!!! Also, remember to use the hashtags #FrenchCurvesOOTD and #FlightOfTheFatGirl on all your style pics!!! 

Collier/necklace, La Caverne de Djénéba 

Tunique/tunic, Nadia Aboulhosn for Addition Elle – old 

Leggings/leggings, Addition Elle – similaire/similar 

Chaussures/shorts, Payless – Ici/here

New Year’s Eve

Welp… It is officially 2016—time to start facing those resolutions and to start it off on the right foot! 
  
But if you’re like me, at least for now, I’ve put the thought of resolutions aside, and decided that this year would be about maintenance. 

   
 
I’m not saying I won’t strive to be better… I’m just saying that I’m pretty damn happy with my achievements last year, and I hope to keep those accomplishments coming, and keep pushing forward as I have been.

  

   

  
This way, the progress will come naturally, without a silly date on the calendar looming over my head, making me feel that if I don’t change something, that I’m somehow a failure. 

  
So cheers to all I’ve overcome! Cheers to what lies ahead! And cheers to this gorgeous dress, whose butterfly and floral print is perfectly symbolic of fresh starts and new beginnings!

  
  
Paired with some big, bold earrings, and a bright orange blazer, I’m ready to take on 2016, and keep building upon the solid foundation I laid for myself last year!

   

  

  

Happy New Year, once again, to you, yours, and everyone in between!!! 

  

Dress, Zelie For She – out of stock 

Blazer, Eloquii – different colours available here 

Boots, SexyPlus – here 
   

New Year’s Eve 

I don’t know about you, but I always get a little verklempt come New Year’s Eve (as I think many of us do) because it’s just such a symbolic time of change, rich in nostalgia and the warm fuzzy holiday feels; but this year, I’ve found myself even more in my feelings than I’ve ever been before.

   
I’ve overcome a great deal of personal challenges this year. It wasn’t easy. I will go so far as to say that I survived 2015, more than I lived it; but with each obstacle, I became stronger, better, faster (okay, not faster), and I learned to be very proud of who I am, and the people in my life.

   
I can honestly say, although in the thick of things, it was hard to acknowledge, it has been an amazing year despite it all, because alongside all the crap that it threw my way, a lot of great stuff happened too!

   
  
The greatest gifts I could have possibly received this year are that of realizing that I’m a much more resilient person than I ever imagined myself to be. I’ve finally learned to trust that I will overcome, I will thrive, and I’ve see just how much of a rock I am to my family. 

   

It’s a good feeling to know that I’m deserving of this status. I don’t think I had ever felt that I was until this year. I know now that I deserve to be happy, not just about my body, but about my choices as a mother, a wife, and most importantly, a woman. 

  

Difficult times may seem a little (ok, hell of a lot) confusing, but trusting yourself to make sense of that confusion is definitely something to be proud of, and I have finally been able to accomplish it. 

  
Although life if full of grey areas, at least some things can still be black and white, and my New Year’s Eve dress from City Chic is just that—black, white and elegant all over! I’m totally obsessed with the lace detail, and its playfully pleated sheer skirt! 

  
Paired with my fabulous feather bolero, a dazzling statement necklace, and delicate, handmade crystal earrings from Cristy Ellen K

  
A pretty pair of leather gloves…

  
And printed tights from Addition Elle, with my beautiful, black, sparkly, T-strap pumps that I designed from Shoes Of Prey, I am ready for that ball to drop, and to welcome in the new year, surrounded by the people I love the most! 

  
Happy New Year’s Eve, loves!!! Bring on 2016!!!

  

Dress, City Chic – here 

Bolero, Addition Elle – old 

Tights, Addition Elle – here 

Shoes, Shoes Of Prey – design your own here 

New Year’s Eve Eve 

You guysss!!! Tomorrow is New Year’s Eve!!! 

So, to commemorate the year gone by, and ring in 2016 in style, I’ll be bringing you three looks over the next three days to celebrate New Years Eve Eve (shut up, it’s a thing), New Year’s Eve, and New Year’s Day! 

  

  

   

  
 As an only child, when I was growing up, the holidays were a particularly joyful time in my life, and not so much because of the presents and the goodies (although, I wasn’t mad at them), but what I really loved the most, was that my mum and I would go stay at my grandparent’s house for Christmas break, and my aunt would drive up from Ontario with my four cousins, to stay too. For two weeks each winter, it was like I was part of a big family, and I always looked so forward to it.  

   
  
  
There was no let down after the excitement of Christmas morning died down, because we were all still together, and then of course, once all of those festivities concluded, we still had New Year’s to look forward to! 

    

 
   
 

  
December 30th was always New Year’s Eve Eve to us, and to me, it always will be. This stunning, winter white Kiyonna dress from SexyPlus captures the purity and innocence of those childhood memories perfectly. 
      

   
 I’ve paired it with the most fantastic rhinestone encrusted clutch from Aldo, and my gorgeous, sparkly silver peep toe, kitten heel pumps, that I designed from Shoes Of Prey.   

 
  
I’ve topped off the look with the absolute most incredible faux-fur stole from F.O.C. by Flaws Of Couture, which lends a luxurious touch of old world Hollywood glam to this already elegant look. 

   
 Although our lives and traditions have evolved, and those childhood memories are just faded old photographs in the albums of my mind, it still makes me smile to think of those two weeks each year, when nothing else mattered but playing with our Christmas presents, drinking Coke floats, building couch cushion forts (much to our grandmother’s chagrin), and planning our upcoming outfits on New Year’s Eve Eve. 

  
Dress, by Kiyonna from SexyPlus – available in black here, red here, magenta, here, and in ivory, here 

Stole, F.O.C. by Flaws Of Couture – here 

Clutch, Aldo – here 

Shoes, designed by me, from Shoes Of Prey – design your own here 

Above 0° In Point Zero Curvy 

I’m all about staying cute and cozy during the holidays. With the snow on the ground, the icicles adorning the rooftops… Err… I mean, the mucky grass, unseasonably warm temperatures, no snow whatsoever, and with an inevitable green Christmas just around the corner, looking cute and staying just cozy enough has challenged our usual wintertime outerwear conceptions.

If there’s one thing I know, it’s that the folks over at Point Zero have always known how to do winter! But this year, their Point Zero Curvy collection is remarkably suited for our record breakingly warm December, letting us know that they were definitely at the top of their game in predicting that this winter, cozy layers would be exactly what Mother Nature ordered! 

  
This fantastic Point Zero Curvy, faux-shearling vest, is the epitome of rustic chic! 

  
   

 Paired with their super comfy, printed leggings, and beautiful winter white (oh, the irony), embellished, peasant style blouse… 

   
  
 
this is the ideal look for sipping hot apple cider, mulled wine, or hot cocoa (with marshmallows AND extra whipped cream, of course), and getting together with friends and family from near and far, to nibble on gingerbread, and enjoy the merriment of the season.    

  
  
 
And for any last minute Christmas shopping (because that’s how I roll), or for hitting those amazing Boxing Day sales, this PZ Curvy, faux-fur trimmed poncho is luxurious perfection! 

   
   
  
  

 Paired with their faux-leather trimmed leggings, and stunning black tee with sheer detail, this truly is the most gorgeous, and most importantly, comfortable outfit, that is suitable not only for hitting the shops, but for any other casual holiday get together, where a little touch of glam is called for! 

  
   
 
As always, it is such a pleasure supporting Canadian brands, like Point Zero Curvy! With quality pieces like these in my closet, I know that this winter, I’m well covered, both literally and figuratively!

  

   
 You can shop the entire collection at pointzero.ca (for my fellow hosers, eh), or at pointzero.com for international customers, as well as in store at SexyPlus clothing!

Be sure to follow Point Zero Curvy on Facebook and Instagram @pointzerocurvy, to keep up to date on their latest collections and promotions! 
Faux-shearling vest, Point Zero Curvy 

Printed leggings, Point Zero Curvy – here 

Peasant style blouse, Point Zero Curvy – here 

Ponch, Point Zero Curvy – here 

Faux-leather trimmed leggings, Point Zero Curvy – here 

Black tee with sheer detail, Point Zero Curvy