Now, this is a story all about how
My life got flipped, turned upside down
And I’d like to take a minute just sit right there
I’ll tell you how I became the prince of a town called Bel Air
All my fellow 90s kids don’t need to hear more than a word or two to know that this the beginning of the instantly recognizable theme song from The Fresh Prince Of Bel Air!!!
This had to be my favourite show growing up; it was funny, there was always a good message, and Will. Smith. Was. HOT!!! (Uhh, still is actually.)
Naturally, since we’re seeing a serious revival of all things 90s, this show has a whole new following. This comes as no surprise to me – it has an appeal that will endure the test of time; but still, how freaking cool is it that my son watches it on Netflix!?!? (Cue the super excited mom, who just heard the theme song to her childhood playing on her son’s phone and now can’t stop talking to him about how awesome it was back in the day… Cue several eye rolls from said son as well.)
You can only imagine my delight when I came across this Fresh Prince crop top from Rebdolls!!! (Actually maybe you can’t… I was embarrassingly excited.)
Since I love mixing styles, I’ve paired it with this showstopping yellow midi skirt from ELOQUII, a fabulous statement necklace from Revolucion Jewelry, my vintage Burberry trench, (thanks Papa) and cute blue flats for a bold, flashy look that the Will would surely approve!
A new attitude has come over me lately… I don’t know if it’s my new haircut, or if I’ve just finally realized how strong a woman I actually am… Maybe it’s a combination of the two; but one thing is for sure – I’m living my life my way and I’m doing it like a boss.
As women, (especially fat women) we’re constantly questioning ourselves. Can I do this? Is she better than me? What if he doesn’t like me? Am I pretty enough? Do these jeans make me look fat? Will they laugh at me? What if I fail? And the reality is, life is some really scary sh*t – but most of us are doing just fine.
We try so hard, only to worry that we haven’t tried hard enough, and sometimes we just need to take a step back and realize that we’re doing a damn good job at this whole existence thing!!!
When it all comes down to it, you don’t have to answer to any single mortal being in this world but yourself. You are your rule maker, your rule breaker and nobody can tell you how you should feel, so own it! Allow yourself to be proud that you’ve made it this far!
Be the boss b*tch you were born to be!!!
In honour of my recent attitude adjustment, I’m wearing a dope crop top from Rebdolls (formerly Custom Plus), paired with a textured skirt from Penningtons, a little bling from Forever 21, and this fab, cropped sweatshirt from Addition Elle – the perfect look to express my feelings of empowerment.
Do you know what size you are? You may be reading this and thinking, of course I do – but fellow Canadian, Tierra Sedgemore, the designer of this fab tee, and founder of the Size Sexy movement is trying to change the way women have been letting their sizes define them, one t-shirt at a time!
The message written across these tees is a short, but powerful one. A true rebel of a slogan, it goes against the idea we’ve all had drilled into our heads since we were little girls, that we are the number on our clothing labels. Notice how, even at the beginning of this post, I asked what size you are, and not what size you wear? That right there is proof enough that we have been letting our sizes determine our worth for far too long.
I’ve paired mine with my pastel pink tutu from Zelie For She, gunmetal accessories and my grey, Rampage, grunge boots, for a playful, sexy look with a whole lot of attitude!
Purchase your Size Sexy tees in an assortment of colours on Tierra’s website (here), and in store or online at Sexy Plus Clothing. Also, don’t forget to follow Tierra on Instagram @tierrasedgemoresizesexy and use the #sizesexy hashtag!
In parting I’ll leave you with the words of the lady herself – “Don’t be defined by your size. Be size sexy!!!”
Don’t get TOO excited, now! It’s just a dress… Ha…
The moment I saw this dress I simply new it had to be mine – I’d been waiting for a minimalist, nude dress for so long, and this fab strapless midi from Custom Plus was perfection!
These shoes, however had been my nemesis ever since the day after the occasion I had bought them for. I designed them myself on shoesofprey.com for a wedding and have had such a ridiculously hard time working them into my wardrobe – partly because they are a little extravagant, but mostly because I had almost stopped wearing silver for a while, and they just never seemed to be a good fit with what I had on. I had them stashed in the back if my closet, and had almost forgotten about them completely, when I stumbled upon a stunning, multi-coloured jewel encrusted statement necklace on Instagram, from Toronto based, Revolucion Jewelry. I lusted after it for a while, and finally placed my order. After receiving it, I immediately envisioned this bold, eccentric piece with my kitten heeled, glittery, bowed, perfect disasters & my new dress, and everything just fell into place.
The first, being the daytime look; and in keeping with the recent dress-over-pants trend, I paired it with my Parasuco jeans from Addition Elle and my white, 3/4 length sleeve blazer from Torrid. I had been wanting to try these shoes with a boyfriend jean, and they just worked, even for daytime, with this simple, sophisticated look. All I needed was a nude lippie, and a pop of colour from my hot pink, Kate Spade tote, and I was ready to go!!!
For the transition into an evening look, I wore the dress as a stand alone piece, displaying all (and I mean all) my curves in all their roly-poly glory! With the addition of my gorgeous Revolucion Jewelry necklace, a switcheroo from tote to nude clutch (Aldo), the addition of a colourful, shell bracelet, purchased at a local market in Haiti, and a deep red lip, my look was transformed from daytime chic to evening glam in no time!!!
As my loyal followers know, I’ve been debating cutting it short again for as long as I’ve been blogging (longer actually) and I finally got the nerve up to go through with it!!! For those of you who don’t, I wrote a blog post at the start of this year detailing my long hair vs. short hair struggle (here).
I went with a cut that would offer me the best of both worlds – an undercut that’s short and edgy, yet long enough on top to showcase my beautiful curls and volume!
A great haircut is nothing without a fab outfit, though, so I rocked my new do with my fave skirt – an acid wash chambray, high-low number from Addition Elle, a vibrant, tribal print crop top from Forever 21+, grey suede, laser cut oxfords from Esprit, and my gorgeous Louis Vuitton Speedy 40 handbag.
For those of you who don’t know what these are, they are the terms that people type into their search engines which lead them to clicking on my blog, and you can believe me when I say that many if these terms are downright hilarious! I’ve seen search terms going from “fat nude white girl” all the way to “big black sexy naked beauty.”
Yup. Nudity is almost always in there somewhere; but the second most common search terms I see go something along the lines of “how to wear plus size harem pants.”
I gather, from how often these search terms come up, that harem pants continue to be a coveted, yet intimidating style among the full figured community, and I totally understand. I was, at one time very much nervous about wearing them too.
See, and I know I’ve discussed this with you many times before, I have a serious case of the bum-tum (tummy that looks like a second butt in the front), and harem pants have proven to be a huge struggle to pull off (not literally off, that part is easy).
I wrote another post a while back (here) about with a tip on wearing a peplum top, or belt to help disguise your tummy. I still love this idea, but I’ve come up with another.
As you can see, I’ve paired the same harem pants (Forever 21+) from my other post, with this absolutely delicious blue, vintage style tee from Addition Elle; and instead of tucking it in and putting my belly on display, I’ve left it untucked, except for a small bit of it on one side. This way, you have nearly full tummy coverage while still showing off the signature high waist and pockets of the pants at the same time. It’s the best of both worlds!
Pair the ensemble with colourful flats and a bright handbag for a casual, chic, put together look that incorporates the on trend look of harem pants with the comfort of knowing you’re tummy is hidden.
Yesterday was the day that I finally decided to debut my Louis Vuitton Speedy 40!!! It felt like bringing a new puppy home from the pet shop. I wanted to show the world to him and show him to the world all at the same time. It was glorious, regardless of the fact that my dry cleaning was stuffed inside… (What!? I had errands to run!!!)
When you’re planning to take the leap and purchase an investment bag, it’s always best to look around, ask questions and compare; after all, you want it to be perfect!
This bag is pure luxury, from the little details of its lock and keys, to its baby soft leather handles. I went with the Speedy because it’s just so iconic, and I decided on the 40cm, because big girl always looks good with a big bag!!!
Since I love mixing classic pieces with trendy ones, I paired it with my fabulous, new Parasuco acid wash jeans from Addition Elle, rolled up for a boyfriend look, and their Love & Legend, dusty mauve, graphic tee, which I sized up on, for an edgy, oversized look.