Has this ever happened to you…? You have an event to attend, you’ve picked out a killer ensemble, and then at the last minute, it looks like it might rain, so your whole outfit game gets thrown off and you’ve gotta come up with something cute, and fast!!!
That’s exactly what happened to me while I was in New York with my husband last weekend, on the day of The CurvyCon, because being drenched in a pink tutu in the middle of Manhattan just didn’t seem like a solid plan for attending an event like this day long convention for bloggers, fashion lovers, and curvy girls alike, created by thee Chastity Garner Valentine, of Garner Style!
I did, however have a fabulous back up plan, which honestly, ended up being one of my favourite, most effortless looks yet — and even though it didn’t actually end up raining, I regret nothing!!!
I paired a great pair of dark wash skinnies with one of my fave new tees, and a fab striped blazer from Penningtons. I love how chic these three pieces looked together — you could hardly even tell that I was completely frazzled about what to wear only moments before!
With the addition of the most adorable printed espadrille flatforms from ASOS, my new Tom Ford specs, some minimalist gold threader earrings from Forever 21, a gorgeous kelly green Kate Spade clutch, and la pièce de la résistance — this freakin’ amazeballs car ring from Ready to Stare, I walked through the revolving doors of my hotel feeling like I owned the city!
Once again, we hit the streets in style with my blogger boo, of Tall Tales by Ramona O, and we grabbed brunch and got in a little photo shoot!
And check out how handsome my photographer — errr… My hubby looked!!!
After that, we hailed a cab and headed off to The CurvyCon! It was amazeballs to bump dimpled elbows with some of our favourite fellow plus size bloggers, models, business women, celebs like my boo thang, Sabrina Servance of Lifetime’s Big Women Big Love, and the stunning Amber Riley, best known for her role as Mercedes Jones on Glee, as well as check out showcases from some awesome brands like Fashion To Figure, Rebdolls, and the breakout line Eleven60, which, can I just say — go on now, take my money!!!
The day was full of giggles, hugs and selfies! The hubs even snapped this awesome, super awful photo of Ramona and I once we got inside! Haha! I promise you, we are not as unhappy as we look, just feeling that NYC humidity! Hehee! I had to share! :P
Be sure to check out Ramona’s post about our NYC takeover, here!
Jeans, Penningtons – here
T-shirt, Penningtons – here
Blazer, Penningtons – sold out (wahhh!)
Shoes, ASOS – sold out, but a whole bunch of similar styles here
Clutch, Kate Spade – similar
Car ring, Ready To Stare – several styles here
I’ve never had to worry about being accused of stealing because I lingered in a convenience store. I’ve never worried about finding an affordable place to live in the neighbourhood of my choosing, surrounded by folks who look like me. I’ve always been able to flag down a cab when I needed one, and I’ve never had to think twice about walking down the street with a hoodie on.
I’m white — and if anyone here thinks that this has nothing to do with that, then please, carefully take note and be open to feeling uncomfortable in your whiteness (should that be the case), or kindly excuse yourselves from this space.
Everyday I look through my newsfeed and I’m appalled. I’m appalled not only by the heinous, racially driven crimes being committed by civilians, but by those whose purpose it is to serve and protect. I’m also appalled by my fellow Caucasians’ shameful ignorance when denying their white privilege — taking offence when someone states that black lives matter, as if somehow this means that theirs don’t.
I have black friends. We’ve all heard that line — but I do, really, and it never made me think that deeply about racism. In fact, even having a black husband didn’t really open my eyes like one might imagine it would. I’m telling you this even though it makes me feel ashamed and embarrassed by my own personal ignorance.
I only realized it in the past few years — how easy my life had been. Sure, growing up fat came with its own set of difficulties, and I’ve felt sorry for myself on many occasions, but it’s nothing compared to the hurdles faced by those who are growing up black.
My epiphany came when I had my youngest son. See, I have four children, two of whom are white, two of whom are mixed. My 12 year-old daughter is 1/4 black, and although she is incredibly proud of her heritage, and does not hesitate to proclaim her blackness — with her pale skin, dirty blonde, wavy hair, and light blue eyes, she is not visibly black. My four-year-old son, however, is.
Before him, I never had any fears sending my white children off to their white school, in our white neighbourhood. I never had to go shop in that tiny, dusty “black products” section of Walmart to find something to untangle their natural hair. I never had to worry that, because of their skin colour, someone might try and hurt one of my babies.
I am speaking from underneath the veil of white privilege, this is without question, and my experiences will never be the same as those of a black mother, but I am terrified to even imagine the ache of seeing my child face discrimination, struggle to overcome prejudice, or the heartbreak I would feel to lose him because he was walking home from the store, while black.
Recently, I discussed exactly this, with good friend, and blogging beauty, Ramona, of Tall Tales by Ramona O. In fact, we talked about a whole lot of things concerning white privilege, racism, and unity. We decided that since we’d be meeting up in New York City last weekend, that we’d use our time there to put together a collab – something meaningful, about more than just fashion and plus size style.
As I rolled into New York, I turned on the news in my hotel room only to hear of the horrible Charleston Massacre the day before. It was a huge reminder of all my discussions with Ramona, and of how much we need change.
As a woman who was born with, as the brilliant activist and writer, Pia Schiavo-Campo states in her article for Ravishly, “the kind of unearned privilege that keeps you from being harassed or gunned down by police officers” — my role in fighting racism is important, and regardless of your skin tone, so is yours!!!
Show how you believe that Black Lives Matter! Silence is consent, so be vocal, get in people’s faces, and don’t stand for any racism, no matter how “innocent” it may seem. Get educated on black culture and racism if you’re not, and educate others if you are.
Be aware of your own attitudes, and if you’re white, don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone to show your support for unity — because I am willing to bet… there is no comfort zone for black Americans who are watching their brothers, sisters, sons & daughters, families, friends, and community members being racially profiled, discriminated against, beaten and shot down because they are “the wrong colour.”
Please be sure to check out Ramona’s post and hear her perspective on how unity is is the key to change – here.
And here are some great pieces to help you learn more on white privilege and racism:
5 Ways to Unpack White Privilege: The Tess Holliday Incident by Pia Schiavo-Campo
And you can also check out all of Pia’s blogging amazingness on MixedFatChick.com.
Mesh crop top, Penningtons – here
Lace bralette (under), Addition Elle – here
Skirt, Forever 21+ – old, similar
Shoes, Jessica Simpson from Addition Elle – old, love these
I’ve been busy over on The Penningtons Blog! Last week, I styled some fabulous dresses for day and nighttime! (That white one? Yeah, that one is mine now!!!)
So head on over to The Penningtons Blog to see what I’ve been up to, and of course, for all the deets on the amazing ensembles!!!
All looks from Penningtons – here
It’s the 16th of the month again!!! Time for my French Curves post – an outfit photo challenge with the French touch, created by the gorgeous Vanoue, of The Curvy and Curly Closet.
The theme this month: FESTIVAL!!!
If you don’t speak French, worry not, my lovelies!!! As usual, an English translation will follow!
Il est encore le 16 du mois ! C’est a dire, un nouveau French Curves Challenge – la collaboration entre les blogueuses francophones de taille plus, crée par la ravissante Vanoue, de The Curvy and Curly Closet.
Le thème ce mois-ci, FESTIVAL !!!
La saison des festivals m’inspire toujours ! Il y a une certaine sorte de magie durant ce temps de l’année. Le style nous évoque une nostalgie pour une époque révolue, un temps qu’on associe tous avec l’amour et la liberté d’esprit.
J’ai fait de mon mieux de garder cet esprit libre (malgré qu’il pleuvait des cordes) en me rappelant que, historiquement les festivals ou la pluie a tomber ont été parmi les plus mémorables !
Pour mon look festival, j’ai porté une simple, et chic robe t-shirt noir, de Zelie For She, avec une jolie haute en motif de papillons avec franges de Addition Elle.
Pour compléter ma tenue, un bracelet en cuir, des boucles d’oreilles extravagant, des lunettes en forme de cœur, un panama au ruban floral, et des merveilleuses sandales perlées de ASOS, mais ce n’est pas tout…
La vraie vedette de mon look se cache humblement end dessous de ma robe (oh, n’y pense plus !) — une paire de Bandelettes en dentelle noir, parce qu’il est impossible de s’amuser dans un festival quand les frottement entre tes cuisses sont la seule chose qui te passe par la tête, n’est-ce pas !?
Alors, même avec la pluie qui tombait à 100 milles à l’heure sur ma tête, j’ai canalisé mon esprit de festival!
Haute, Addition Elle – ici
Sandales, ASOS – anciens, mais j’adore ceux-ci
Bandelettes, Bandelettes – ici
And now for my English readers!
Festival season always inspires me! There’s a certain sort of magic this time of year. The style invokes a nostalgia for a bygone era – a time we all associate with love and free-spiritedness.
I did my best to keep my spirit free, (despite the fact that it was raining cats and dogs) by remembering that, historically, some of the most memorable festivals happened when it rained.
For my festival look, I wore a simple and chic black T-shirt dress from Zellie For She, with a pretty, butterfly print, fringed blouse from Addition Elle.
To complete my outfit, I accessorized with a leather bracelet, some extravagant earrings heart-shaped sunnies, a floral ribbon adorned Panama hat and fabulous beaded sandals from ASOS; but that’s not all…
The star of the show hides humbly under my dress (oh go on, get your mind outta the gutter!!!) — a pair of black lace Bandelettes, because it’s impossible to enjoy a festival when a you can think about is the chub rub going on between your thighs, am I right!?!
So, even though the rain was falling on my head at a hundred miles an hour, I channeled my festival spirit!!!
Be sure to check out all the other fabulous French Curvettes here, as well as on Facebook and Instagram!!!
Blouse, Addition Elle – here
Sandals, ASOS – old, but I love these
Bandelettes, Bandelettes – here
I’ve been meaning to get this last one of my silver fox hair posts out to you guys, but with my new gig with The Penningtons Blog, the end of my kids’ school year fast approaching, getting ready for FFFW and The CurvyCon in New York City, and season three of OITNB finally released, life has been a bit crazy! I’m not complaining though – quite the opposite actually!
All this hustle & bustle just gives me more excuses to wear rediculously comfy outfits, and that my friends, is reason enough to smile!
Then, take that style/comfort combo and add a fun, striped bandeau from Penningtons, a fancy pair of Ted Baker flip flops, a fab beaded belt from Addition Elle, and some pretty silver jewelry, for a super chic street festival inspired look, perfect for summertime in the city!
Jumpsuit, City Chic – sold out, similar
Bandeau, Penningtons – here
Belt, Addition Elle – here
Flip Flops, Ted Baker (ASOS) – here
As many of you know, I have done a few guest blog posts for Penningtons, but this week I started on a new journey with the Penningtons team, and have been hired as weekly contributor to The Penningtons Blog!!!
I’m very proud of my first adventure as weekly contributor – breaking the ever eyeroll-worthy plus size fashion “rule” of never wearing horizontal stripes!
In this post, I styled six different looks, with the help of the ever helpful Penningtons Pointe-Claire staff, and I couldn’t be more proud of how I proved that horizontal stripes are most definitely not off limits to us full figured ladies!!!
So here’s a peek, but to see the full size shots, read what I had to say, and to find out all the deets on these great outfits for yourselves, just head on over to The Penningtons Blog to check out the post, and be sure to check back with them each week to view my latest contribution!!!
I’ve worn a tutu before. I own a pretty, light pink one, and it’s very much adorable, but I’ve always felt that it lacked a little drama for those times when I really wanted to slay.
So, while scrolling through my newsfeed one day, I happened upon a post from Mo Handahu, better known to most of you as the fabulous, Halifax based life & style blogger/designer/spectacular sunglasses aficionado, Lion Hunter.
She is just the epitome of cool, and takes the word chic to a whole new level with her consistently epic print mixing, and awe-inspiring accessories, so her posts always jump right off my screen, begging to be admired.
In this particular one, she was wearing a vibrant blue tutu, a colour that struck me as uncommon as far as these puffy tulle skirts go.
I soon discovered that not only was she wearing it five different ways with that flawless pizazz that only she can pull off (which is impressive in its own right), but she had hand crafted it herself as part of a lookbook for her own line, called “The Tutu Experience.” (Whaaaaaaaa!? No wayyyyyy, right!?)
So, I guess you can imagine my excitement upon finding out that not only could I now own one of Lion Hunter’s gorgeous tutus, but I could also have a chance to touch a piece of her, now somehow tangible, greatness!!!
There were so many colour choices, and it was tough to make a decision, but I had always wanted a brown tutu. So after giving some measurements, and a special request or two, a few clicks later my tutu order was sent!
I paired it with a cute leopard crop top from Rebdolls, because after all, I couldn’t wear a piece from Mo without paying homage to her by wearing at least one print!
I accessorized with some fierce, (albeit wickedly uncomfortable) cobalt blue pumps (probably my last attempt at heels ever) by Christian Siriano for Payless, a handmade Malian bronze & bead necklace, and topped it all off with my trusty yellow Ted Baker springbok hide clutch, for an edgy, vibrant touch.
I definitely turned heads in my tutu, between its rich brown colour, striking design, and the wind that kept blowing it up and showing off the goodies; and I can officially say this tutu experience was glorious!!!
Tutu, The Tutu Experince – here
Crop top, Rebdolls – here
Shoes, Chritian Siriano for Payless – here
Clutch, Ted Baker – sold out, similar