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Can I Get A Do Over?

When I look back upon my younger days, my angsty, early teenage years play in my head like old yearbook slideshow on a school projector screen. Images of dark lipstick, sticky eye makeup, and blonde hair with dark roots flip to a grungy 90s soundtrack of alternative rock, and I can’t help but feel nostalgic. 

I’m not gonna lie, I don’t think I could pull off most of my nineties looks anymore even if I wanted to… Let’s just say, my days of greasy hair and beaten up skater shoes are behind me, but I have been finding myself drawing a lot of inspiration from the grunge trend that is in full force this fall! 

Dark roots for example… Um, yeah— got that covered. Peeling nail polish, check! If there’s one thing about 90s style that I love, it’s how low maintenance you can be and still get away with looking trendy! Also, eyegloss is now a thing. That’s right! I no longer need to fight with my mom or get turned down by a boy (story of my 90s life) to get that trademark just-broken-up-with, been-crying-all-day  look! If only I had known that  I had to do was slap some gloss on my eyes, and finish up with a deep burgundy lip to look perfectly, gorgeously, existential. 


I wore a lot of men’s clothes back then (mostly because I couldn’t fit into a lot of the women’s stuff that I liked), so my grandfather’s old Burberry trench and scarf (which incidentally, have lived through the 90s just like me) are a definite homage to that. Besides, they look freaking gorge over this stunning cutout dress from SmartGlamour!


Its silhouette is reminiscent of the 90s slip dresses that I never wore because they showed too much belly, and the cutouts are a shoutout to the bare midriff that never had the courage to show off when every girl and her BFF were rocking crop tops! 


Also, Jennifer Anniston on any episode of Friends will confirm, going braless was also pretty big in the 90s, so I had to keep things authentic (any excuse not to wear a bra, basically). 


As much as a pair of Doc Martens would have worked with this outfit, I didn’t wanna go full grunge, so I slipped on a pretty pair of lace up flats to complete my 90s inspired look!  

It makes me feel super old, but I love that the iconic style I grew up with is cool again. I also love how it’s been stripped down to its dirty, dingy core, and has come back minus the butterfly clips (not gonna pretend I’m not relieved). So give me all the 90s Gwen Stefani, Alanis Morrissette and Courtney Love vibes, because I think it’s about time that teenage me got a style do over!!! 

Dress, SmartGlamour – here (use discount code CynthiaSG for 10% off any SmartGlamour purchase, plus free shipping)

Trench, scarf – vintage Burberry 

Shoes, Aldo – similar 

A Decade Of Curves Giveaway

I remember the first time I ordered a piece from Monif C. It was a dress, in the most dazzling multicolour print which seemed to contain every shade known to man, with one sheer black sleeve, and a whole lot of attitude! I had never worn anything that hugged my curves and made me love my hips so much in my entire life. 

That was about two years ago now, but Monif C. has been killing the plus size fashion game for much longer than that! 

10 years to be specific, and to celebrate, the brand has teamed up with ten fabulous blogger babes, myself included, to showcase their “A Decade Of Curves” collection!

 I was asked to choose my fave Monif C. piece from the new collection, and I instantly fell in love with the “Paloma” fleece jumpsuit!!! 

  
It’s the stuff fashionistas’ dreams are made of — the contrast between the fleece (FLEECE!!!) fabric and the super structured cut, is so edgy and perfect! 

   

    
  

  
 
While it can definitely be dressed down and worn as a casual outfit, I really wanted to play on the contrast that this jumpsuit already contains within itself and pair this sporty fabric with classic, super elegant, almost Gatsby-esque accessories. 

  
This stunning collar necklace and embellished clutch from Aldo, and my custom shoes that I designed myself from Shoes Of Prey were the perfect pieces to adorn this velvety grey masterpiece and really make a statement. 

   
   
  
And when it comes to Monif C., making statements has been the standard for the past decade, and I’m wishing them another fabulous decade of curves to come! 

   

  
   
I have one more surprise for you! Monif C. and I are holding an Instagram giveaway of one piece of your choice to a lucky Flight of the Fat Girl follower!!! 

  
The contest rules are as follows:

1. Follow @flightofthefatgirl on Instagram.

2. Follow @monifcplussizes on Instagram.

3. Repost this image on Instagram tagging @flightofthefatgirl and @monifcplussizes and use the hashtag #ADecadeOfCurves.

4. Leave a comment with the piece you’d love to rock and your email address. 

One winner with be chosen at random. Contest closes on November 23rd 2015, and choices are subject to availability at that time. 

So stay tuned and GOOD LUCK!!! 

P.S. How cute is my photographer/hubby? It would have been a shame not to get him on the other side of the camera at least for one shot! Hehee! 

   
 
Jumpsuit, Monif C. – here 

Necklace, Aldo – here 

Clutch, Aldo – here 

Shoes, Shoes Of Prey – design your own here

In Stylzoo 

Every year I get really excited about fall fashion — the layering, the boots,  the rich, deep colours, and did I mention the layering? 

Navy blue will forever be one of my favourite fall shades. It offers all the benefits of wearing black (and no, I’m not talking “flattering,” I’m talking versatility), while actually bringing a little colour to the table. 

  
This navy wrap dress from Stylzoo is total perfection! It hugs my curves beautifully, and I’m seriously feeling the sexy V neckline! 

  
    
 I paired it with a this super chic, longline blazer from Penningtons…

   
And threw on my trusty, grey combat boots, to complete my look’s military-meets-90s-grunge inspired attitude.  

  
I decided to be bold and pick up on the tones in the lining of my boots, and accessorize with my emerald green Kate Spade Clutch, silver and pastel blue earrings, and my most daring lippie yet, a deep teal/green shade called Dr. M, from ColourPop Cosmetics! 

 

  
 I love how refreshing the mix of classic and edgier elements turned out to be! 
  
Armed with great pieces like my Stylzoo wrap dress, and adventurous lipstick shades like this one, I am definitely fall fashion ready! 

Dress, Stylzoo – here 

Blazer, Penningtons- sold out online, may still be available in store 

Lippie, ColourPop Cosmetics- here 

Untold Stories: Manhattan 

It was one of those moments… In New York City, the hustle and bustle of folks rushing past, each with their own stories — their own places to be. 

  

But in this instant, this was my place. I had nowhere to go, I was already there, and all I wanted was to bask in my moment. 

  
  

It’s an interesting thing, walking through the streets of Manhattan in a bright pink tutu.   

  
One woman stopped me and said, in a heavy Russian accent, “verrrrry niiice.” Another pointed me out to her preschool aged daughter and said, “look! She looks like a princess!” 

  

Mostly though, people just walked briskly past, giving a quick glance, and returning to their fixed-eyed, onward-bound stares as they continued to where they had to go. 

  
But for me… Time stood still. The yellow cabs whizzed by, cars honked and pedestrians whirred about, each, undoubtedly with somewhere very important to be… It was all just a blur — a dazzling kaleidoscope of colours and light.

  
So, there I was in my custom made tutu from The Tutu Experience, (AKA the fabulous Miss Lion Hunter), a pretty crochet detail blouse and Jessica Simpson Sandals from Addition Elle…  

   

 

My playful and whimsical accessories, a bag that my mum picked up for me as a donation to The Humane Society of Canada, a gorgeous gold hoop necklace from Fashion To Figure, and my adorable alphabet bracelet from Ready To Stare, creating the perfect balance between fairy princess and Times Square funk… 

  

 

I was a little awestricken and overcome with the untold stories around me… But amidst all that commotion, as the humid breeze blew through the tulle of my skirt, I knew that mine, was only beginning.

P.S. I’m basically fat Carrie Bradshaw now. 

      

Skirt, The Tutu Experience – here (ask about the Flight of the Fat Girl cut [extra $])

Blouse, Addition Elle – here

Shoes, Jessica Simpson from Addition Elle – sold out, love these

Bracelet, Ready To Stare – here 

Necklace, Fashion To Figure – here 

To find out more info on pet adoption, spay and neutering, or how you can donate, visit your local Humane Society or check out their website!

Canada – www.humanesociety.com

USA – www.humanesociety.org 

NYC Takeover, a Last Minute Outfit, and The CurvyCon 

Has this ever happened to you…? You have an event to attend, you’ve picked out a killer ensemble, and then at the last minute, it looks like it might rain, so your whole outfit game gets thrown off and you’ve gotta come up with something cute, and fast!!! 

That’s exactly what happened to me while I was in New York with my husband last weekend, on the day of The CurvyCon, because being drenched in a pink tutu in the middle of Manhattan just didn’t seem like a solid plan for attending an event like this day long convention for bloggers, fashion lovers, and curvy girls alike, created by thee Chastity Garner Valentine, of Garner Style

I did, however have a fabulous back up plan, which honestly, ended up being one of my favourite, most effortless looks yet — and even though it didn’t actually end up raining, I regret nothing!!! 

  

 
I paired a great pair of dark wash skinnies with one of my fave new tees, and a fab striped blazer from Penningtons. I love how chic these three pieces looked together — you could hardly even tell that I was completely frazzled about what to wear only moments before! 
   
 

With the addition of the most adorable printed espadrille flatforms from ASOS, my new Tom Ford specs, some minimalist gold threader earrings from Forever 21, a gorgeous kelly green Kate Spade clutch, and la pièce de la résistance — this freakin’ amazeballs car ring from Ready to Stare, I walked through the revolving doors of my hotel feeling like I owned the city! 

   
   
Once again, we hit the streets in style with my blogger boo, of Tall Tales by Ramona O, and we grabbed brunch and got in a little photo shoot! 
   
     
And check out how handsome my photographer — errr… My hubby looked!!! 

 
      
  
After that, we hailed a cab and headed off to The CurvyCon! It was awesome to bump dimpled elbows with some of our favourite fellow plus size bloggers, models, business women, celebs like my boo thang, Sabrina Servance of Lifetime’s Big Women Big Love, and the stunning Amber Riley, best known for her role as Mercedes Jones on Glee, as well as check out showcases from some awesome brands like Fashion To Figure, Rebdolls, and the breakout line Eleven60, which, can I just say — go on now, take my money!!! 

The day was full of giggles, hugs and selfies! The hubs even snapped this awesome, super awful photo of Ramona and I once we got inside! Haha! I promise you, we are not as unhappy as we look, just feeling that NYC humidity! Hehee! I had to share! 😛

  
I was looking and feeling cute in my last minute getup, and I would have had it any other way!!! 

Be sure to check out Ramona’s post about our NYC takeover, here!

Jeans, Penningtons – here 

T-shirt, Penningtons – here 

Blazer, Penningtons – sold out (wahhh!) 

Shoes, ASOS – sold out, but a whole bunch of similar styles here

Clutch, Kate Spade – similar 

Car ring, Ready To Stare – several styles here 

Black Lives Matter

  
My name is Cynthia. I’m fat. This was always my biggest struggle in life.  

I’ve never had to worry about being accused of stealing because I lingered in a convenience store. I’ve never worried about finding an affordable place to live in the neighbourhood of my choosing, surrounded by folks who look like me. I’ve always been able to flag down a cab when I needed one, and I’ve never had to think twice about walking down the street with a hoodie on. 

  
I’m white — and if anyone here thinks that this has nothing to do with that, then please, carefully take note and be open to feeling uncomfortable in your whiteness (should that be the case), or kindly excuse yourselves from this space. 

Everyday I look through my newsfeed and I’m appalled. I’m appalled not only by the heinous, racially driven crimes being committed by civilians, but by those whose purpose it is to serve and protect. I’m also appalled by my fellow Caucasians’ shameful ignorance when denying their white privilege — taking offence when someone states that black lives matter, as if somehow this means that theirs don’t. 

I have black friends. We’ve all heard that line — but I do, really, and it never made me think that deeply about racism. In fact, even having a black husband didn’t really open my eyes like one might imagine it would. I’m telling you this even though it makes me feel ashamed and embarrassed by my own personal ignorance. 

  
I only realized it in the past few years — how easy my life had been. Sure, growing up fat came with its own set of difficulties, and I’ve felt sorry for myself on many occasions, but it’s nothing compared to the hurdles faced by those who are growing up black. 

  
My epiphany came when I had my youngest son. See, I have four children, two of whom are white, two of whom are mixed. My 12 year-old daughter is 1/4 black, and although she is incredibly proud of her heritage, and does not hesitate to proclaim her blackness — with her pale skin, dirty blonde, wavy hair, and light blue eyes, she is not visibly black. My four-year-old son, however, is. 

Before him, I never had any fears sending my white children off to their white school, in our white neighbourhood. I never had to go shop in that tiny, dusty “black products” section of Walmart to find something to untangle their natural hair. I never had to worry that, because of their skin colour, someone might try and hurt one of my babies. 

  

I am speaking from underneath the veil of white privilege, this is without question, and my experiences will never be the same as those of a black mother, but I am terrified to even imagine the ache of seeing my child face discrimination, struggle to overcome prejudice, or the heartbreak I would feel to lose him because he was walking home from the store, while black. 

Recently, I discussed exactly this, with good friend, and blogging beauty, Ramona, of Tall Tales by Ramona O. In fact, we talked about a whole lot of things concerning white privilege, racism, and unity.  We decided that since we’d be meeting up in New York City last weekend, that we’d use our time there to put together a collab – something meaningful, about more than just fashion and plus size style. 

 As I rolled into New York, I turned on the news in my hotel room only to hear of the horrible Charleston Massacre the day before. It was a huge reminder of all my discussions with Ramona, and of how much we need change. 

 
It is our duty, not as black or white, but as humans, to rally together and unite in support black lives. We cannot stand for this hate, this discrimination — these murders, any longer!!! 

  
As a woman who was born with, as the brilliant activist and writer, Pia Schiavo-Campo states in her article for Ravishly, “the kind of unearned privilege that keeps you from being harassed or gunned down by police officers” — my role in fighting racism is important, and regardless of your skin tone, so is yours!!!  

  
Show how you believe that Black Lives Matter! Silence is consent, so be vocal, get in people’s faces, and don’t stand for any racism, no matter how “innocent” it may seem. Get educated on black culture and racism if you’re not, and educate others if you are. 

  
Be aware of your own attitudes, and if you’re white, don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone to show your support for unity — because I am willing to bet…  there is no comfort zone for black Americans who are watching their brothers, sisters, sons & daughters, families, friends, and community members being racially profiled, discriminated against, beaten and shot down because they are “the wrong colour.” 

  
THERE IS NO WRONG COLOUR. Black. Lives. Matter. 

  
Please be sure to check out Ramona’s post and hear her perspective on how unity is is the key to change – here

And here are some  great pieces to help you learn more on white privilege and racism: 

Black Lives Matter by Ramona O.

White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack by: Peggy McIntosh 
Explaining White Privilege to a Broke White Person… by: Gina Crosley-Corcoran 

5 Ways to Unpack White Privilege: The Tess Holliday Incident by Pia Schiavo-Campo
And you can also check out all of Pia’s blogging amazingness on MixedFatChick.com

Mesh crop top, Penningtons – here 

Lace bralette (under), Addition Elle – here 

Skirt, Forever 21+ – old, similar 

Shoes, Jessica Simpson from Addition Elle – old, love these