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New Year's Eve

Welp… It is officially 2016—time to start facing those resolutions and to start it off on the right foot! 
  
But if you’re like me, at least for now, I’ve put the thought of resolutions aside, and decided that this year would be about maintenance. 

   
 
I’m not saying I won’t strive to be better… I’m just saying that I’m pretty damn happy with my achievements last year, and I hope to keep those accomplishments coming, and keep pushing forward as I have been.

  

   

  
This way, the progress will come naturally, without a silly date on the calendar looming over my head, making me feel that if I don’t change something, that I’m somehow a failure. 

  
So cheers to all I’ve overcome! Cheers to what lies ahead! And cheers to this gorgeous dress, whose butterfly and floral print is perfectly symbolic of fresh starts and new beginnings!

  
  
Paired with some big, bold earrings, and a bright orange blazer, I’m ready to take on 2016, and keep building upon the solid foundation I laid for myself last year!

   

  

  

Happy New Year, once again, to you, yours, and everyone in between!!! 

  

Dress, Zelie For She – out of stock 

Blazer, Eloquii – different colours available here 

Boots, SexyPlus – here 
   

F*CK SELF-DOUBT 

Life is all about taking risks, overcoming obstacles, and breaking through barriers… But when self-doubt starts seeping in through those little cracks that a lifetime of being ashamed of yourself has left behind, it can be much easier said than done.

I’m not saying this because I’m in the mood to dish out life advice, but because my self-doubting thoughts almost got the best of me last week, and I know that so many of you beautiful people struggle with your own body image too.

I receive comments from my followers all the time, about how much they wish they could have my confidence…

So, I really wanted to remind you all, that even the most confident, body positive people still have those moments when it’s hard to love themselves sometimes, and you are sooooo not alone on those days when you look in the mirror and feel like you’re just not good enough.

The confidence you see in my pictures didn’t happen overnight. It is an ongoing process, and I never want any of you to think that it is unattainable or unreachable in any way.

I woke up on the morning of my shoot. I had planned out my whole outfit. I had actually been really excited about it, because it had been a while since I wore something a little more risqué.

The look was made up of four of the most fabulous, sexy, and empowering pieces I own — a black, gold studded, bodycon mini dress from Stylzoo, a stunning chain headpiece from Ready To Stare, my amazing thigh high boots from SexyPlus, and the most incredible black satin bomber from SmartGlamour, with custom lettering.

 


I got dressed, did my makeup, pulled my boots up my chubby thighs, and… I started to feel self-conscious.


I began berating myself for having ever thought I could pull off such a sexy look. Who am I? A thirty-something, fat wife and mother looking like a hooker trying to show someone a good time…?

I fat shamed myself. I slut shamed myself… Two things that I am so strongly opposed to, and yet there I was, staring at my own reflection, picking myself apart and telling myself that I didn’t deserve to feel sexy, and that showing off my body somehow made me less valuable. I almost didn’t leave the house.



Then I thought of my Stylzoo dress, and how hard I have fought to love my legs and belly, and feel comfortable showing them off.


I thought of my boots from SexyPlus, and how fierce they made me feel the moment I stepped out in these first pair of thigh-highs I had ever found to fit my legs.

I thought of my headpiece from Ready To Stare, and how rad as hell it is, and how much of a sexy goddess it makes me feel.

And I thought of my bomber from SmartGlamour, and how excited I was when I was able to select the words “FAT GIRL” in big gold letters, to be displayed across the back, because I’m fat and proud of who I am!

  

The thought of how I had come so far to finally accept my body —myself, and feel good in the clothes I love, came flooding back, washing the doubt into oblivion.

And I decided, fuck what I think people might say about me, my body, and how I choose to dress it! I’m not going to let my self-doubt get in the way of me wearing the stuff I love, just because I’m worried about anyone’s judgement!!!


I went out and did my shoot on a busy street in late afternoon, looking fly as hell; and I just wanted all of you to know that even when you see my pictures and think it looks easy, I do still struggle with self-confidence, and I don’t ever want any of you to feel alone in that!

The important thing to remember, and I hope I can be an example of it, is never to forget how far you’ve come — how hard you’ve worked toward self-acceptance, or how badly you want it. You deserve to love yourself, and that’s what will bring you back to reality — and that reality is, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that YOU ARE WORTHY.   

Dress, Stylzoo – here

Customizable Bomber Jacket, SmartGlamour – here

Headpiece, Ready To Stare – here

Boots, SexyPlus Clothing – here

Keeping Up With The Penningtons 

It’s been a minute since I’ve given you an update on the goings-on over on The Penningtons Blog

In one post, I held a vote on which Penningtons look I would sport on my flight to Haiti! 

  
And in my next post, I showed you that #1 was the undisputed pick for flying in style and comfort!

  

But don’t think that #2, and 3 didn’t get to see Haiti’s sunny shores… 

  
Vacays can’t last forever, unfortunately, and it’s always tough to get back into the work grind afterwards, but when your job involves writing a post about your life, your passion (duhhh, cheesecake — I mean blogging!!!), and how you got there, coming home doesn’t seem so bad! 
  
So be sure to head over and read up on what’s been happening with me on The Penningtons Blog, and don’t forget to check in just about every week to keep up! 

Wedding Season Go-To

Wedding season is in full swing. Every weekend I see a blissful newlywed couple posing for their wedding photos along the water not far from where I Iive.

With, at the very least, a wedding or two to attend each summer, we inevitably scope out the dress scene! 

Of course, it’s all about the blushing bride’s dress — obvi; and the handsome groom too… But I still like to make a statement. After all, you’re bound to bump into at least one ex, or common girlfriend who talked behind your back that one time, and whom you absolutely can’t stand, and now you need to look extra hot in front of — err… Maybe that’s just me…? *nervous laugh*

But anyway, there’s no harm in bringing your A game to a wedding, because let’s face it… At some point during the evening, at least some eyes will be on you

Searching for the perfect dress can seem a daunting task, but that’s why I love Canadian owned (and internationally shipping) SexyPlus Clothing! 

The owner (and absolute dollface), Stefanie (a plus size woman herself) has curated a wonderful collection of dresses in all styles to suit your wedding season (or any season) needs, so you don’t have to search. She just gets it. 

  
This gorgeous and luxurious little black & white number is actually a convertible dress that can also be worn strapless. I must admit though, my favourite of the two is this classic halter style. 

   
 
I love its retro feel so much, that I decided to play it up even more!

   

 

 
I paired it with a cute head scarf, cork wedges, and a vintage metallic mesh clutch that I thrifted (kachiiiiing) earlier this summer!
   
   
It’s chic, old world sexy, and perfect for a wedding, or any occasion! 

   
 
So definitely take a peek at the selection over at SexyPlus! There are so many gorgeous dresses! Whether your style is elegant, or super sassy, you’ll be sure to find something that’s just perfect for you! 
Dress, SexyPlus Clothing – here (also a available in white – here)

Bangles, Fashion to Figure – similar 

Head scarf, Walmart – similar 

Chic In The City 

I’ve been meaning to get this last one of my silver fox hair posts out to you guys, but with my new gig with The Penningtons Blog, the end of my kids’ school year fast approaching, getting ready for FFFW and The CurvyCon in New York City, and season three of OITNB finally released, life has been a bit crazy! I’m not complaining though – quite the opposite actually! 

All this hustle & bustle just gives me more excuses to wear rediculously comfy outfits, and that my friends, is reason enough to smile! 

  
This jumpsuit from City Chic is life. It’s smart and sophisticated, yet relaxed and beyond comfortable! Basically, it’s the embodiment of style/comfort fusion and I’m here for it — here for it all!!! 

  

    

Then, take that style/comfort combo and add a fun, striped bandeau from Penningtons, a fancy pair of Ted Baker flip flops, a fab beaded belt from Addition Elle, and some pretty silver jewelry, for a super chic street festival inspired look, perfect for summertime in the city!  

  

 
 I may be running around like a chicken with its head cut off (I always found that saying so gruesome), but at least I’m comfortable, and looking cute! 

 

Jumpsuit, City Chic – sold out, similar  

Bandeau, Penningtons – here 

Belt, Addition Elle – here 

Flip Flops, Ted Baker (ASOS) – here 

Boobs, Sun & Being A Goddess

Today I’m going to talk about boobs. Yes. Boobs… Boobs and sun. 

I was born and raised in Montreal – a city where for a good chunk of the year, the air is so cold it literally hurts your face… 

We don’t have palm trees, there are no pineapple plants, and our beaches certainly don’t resemble the white sands & turquoise waves of the Caribbean; but for a few months each summer, we do have sun, and I think, from living in a climate of extremes, we know how to appreciate it better than most!

We swim, we camp, we fish, we bask… Not much keeps us inside in the summertime. After all, we’ve waited months to actually go out without freezing our arses off, right? 

And while it isn’t officially summer just yet, the sun is definitely shining down on us, and its warm glow has gotten me feeling kind of frisky!

I know what you’re all thinking… When’s she gonna get to the boobs?

So instead of me getting to them, I’m bringing the boobs to you! Bam!!!  

  
Now if you know me at all, you know that going braless (and often pantless) is far from being a rare occurrence for me, as long as I’m at home or able to throw a winter coat over it, but going visibly braless is public is not something I’m used to. 

So when I wore this incredibly elegant and whimsical, sheer maxi dress from the new Zelie For She, Island Vibes collection, I decided to step out of my comfort zone and flaunt my braless titayyys, because boobs are amazing!!!

   
     

At first I felt shy. I felt that familiar wave of self-questioning panic wash over me… But after a few moments (and some encouraging words from my loving husband/photographer for the day) I told myself, fuck it! I don’t need to wear a bra to please anyone but myself, and ruining the gorgeous neckline of this dress will make me sad, so screw the bra (at least for today)! My tits are free!!! 

   
 

Sure I got winked at by an old man on a bike with spectacular calves (which I’m not going to lie, was a bit of a confidence booster even if he was old enough to be my grandpa). 

  
 And sure, I “freed” at least one nipple twice (that I know of)… (Explains why I got that wink from gramps!) 

   
   But, I felt sexy and alive – my breasts, which have fed my four babies, been pillows for my husband, are to me, symbols of my womanhood. They are truly miraculous entities (or should I say, en-titties), and are nothing to be ashamed of. 

   
    

  They’re no longer perky, they have stretch marks, and imperfections – but they’re mine, and they’re beautiful… And I will never let self-consciousness stop me from being a braless goddess again when I feel like it, especially under the warm sun! 

  
Dress, Zelie For She – here 

Shoes, Aldo – old, but love these 

French Curves: WAX

 

Better late than never, here’s my May submission to the French Curves Challenge, an outfit photo challenge with the French touch, created by the beautiful Vanoue, of The Curvy and Curly Closet, occurring (usually, oops) the 16th of each month! This month’s theme: Wax!!! 

As always, a translation will follow the French text, for all my beautiful Anglo babes (and beaus)! 

Mieux en retard que jamais, voici ma soumission pour le mois de mai au French Curves Challenge, le photo challenge avec la touche française, créé pas la belle Vanoue de The Curvy and Curly Closet !!! Le thème ce moi: Wax !

Le wax (de l’anglais « wax » signifiant cire), également appelé « tissu africain », est un textile de coton ayant reçu sur les deux faces un cirage lui conférant des propriétés hydrophobes. Les cires utilisées sont colorées et forment des motifs qui varient à l’infini dans une recherche esthétique. – Wikipédia 

J’ai toujours été captivé par les tissus wax. Les motifs, les couleurs, et surtout le symbolisme que chaqun d’eux représente – une véritable richesse de la culture africaine ! 
  

  
Ce qui m’a toujours attiré dans le wax c’est qu’il est tellement différent à propos de ma culture, exotique même, et pour moi, c’est ce qui fait son charme !

  

  
L’histoire du tissu wax est longue et très intéressante. Commençant en Indonésie, produit et exporté par l’Hollande au 19e siècle et adopté par l’Afrique de l’Ouest, le wax est maintenant devenue une partie intégrale de l’identité de la mode africaine, qui branche de plus en plus loin de nos jours, sur la scène de la mode internationale. 

  

  
Le mélange des cultures est naturelle et peut être une chose de beauté quand fait avec respect.  Je sais qu’il y a beaucoup de tension concernant l’appropriation culturelle, alors ce que je vais dire, me semble très important et nécessaire à communiquer… 

Je porte cette merveilleuse robe en wax, par Demestiks New York, avec l’humilité, et le plus haut niveau de respect pour la culture noire.

  

Je la porte en sachant qu’on vit dans un monde ou les personnes de ma race, et j’ai honte de le dire, mais c’est vrai, volent la culture noir sans réfléchir et sans la donner le crédit qu’elle mérite.  

  

Je la porte pour payer hommage à l’histoire de la culture, et à la future des vies noir, qui mérite beaucoup plus que juste le moi de février pour être en vedette. 

  

Et je la porte parce que suis reconnaissante d’avoir eu le privilège d’avoir cette belle culture triomphante partagée avec moi chaque jour par la musique, le cinéma, la famille, et la mode, comme avec ce joli tissu wax. 

  

    
Robe, Demestiks New York – ici

Sandals, Ashley Stewart – ancien, mais j’adore ceux-ci 

N’oubliez pas, vous pouvez decouvrir les contributions de tout les autre fabuleuses blogeuses rondes, francophones au lien si dessous !

Ici !!! 

Ainsi que sur la page Facebook French Curves, et sur Instagram, @frenchcurvesfashion !
And now for my English speaking readers!

African waxprints or African wax prints are omnipresent and common materials for clothing in Africa, especially West Africa. They are industrially produced, colorful cotton cloths with batik printing. – Wikipedia 

I’ve always been captivated by waxprint. The patterns, the colours, and especially the symbolism that each represents – a true wealth of African culture!

What has always attracted me the most, is how they’re so different with regards to my culture, exotic even, and therein lies their charm! 

The history of waxprint is long and very interesting. It was created in Indonesia, then later produced and exported out of Holland in the 19th century, and adopted by West Africa, where it remains an integral part of the identity of African fashion, and is branching out more and more everyday onto the international fashion scene. 

The sharing of cultures is natural, and can be a thing of beauty when done with respect. I know there are major tensions concerning cultural appropriation, so what I’m about to say feels very important and necessary for me to communicate…

I’m wearing this stunning waxprint dress, from Demestiks New York with humility, and the utmost respect for black culture. 

I’m wearing it knowing that we live in a world where people of my race, and I’m ashamed to say it, though true, pillage the black culture without a second thought, and without giving it its due credit. 

I’m wearing it to pay homage to the history of the culture, and to the future black lives, which deserve so much more than just the month of February to shine. 

And I’m wearing it because I’m thankful to have theprivilege of having this beautiful, triumphant culture shared with me every day through music, movies, family, and fashion, like this gorgeous waxprint fabric!

Dress, Demestiks New York – here 

Sandals, Ashley Stewart – old, but I love these 

Be sure to check out all my fellow French Curvettes at the link below. 

Here!!! 

And go check us out on the French Curves Facebook page, and on Instagram, @frenchcurvesfashion, too!