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French Curves: WAX

 

Better late than never, here’s my May submission to the French Curves Challenge, an outfit photo challenge with the French touch, created by the beautiful Vanoue, of The Curvy and Curly Closet, occurring (usually, oops) the 16th of each month! This month’s theme: Wax!!! 

As always, a translation will follow the French text, for all my beautiful Anglo babes (and beaus)! 

Mieux en retard que jamais, voici ma soumission pour le mois de mai au French Curves Challenge, le photo challenge avec la touche française, créé pas la belle Vanoue de The Curvy and Curly Closet !!! Le thème ce moi: Wax !

Le wax (de l’anglais « wax » signifiant cire), également appelé « tissu africain », est un textile de coton ayant reçu sur les deux faces un cirage lui conférant des propriétés hydrophobes. Les cires utilisées sont colorées et forment des motifs qui varient à l’infini dans une recherche esthétique. – Wikipédia 

J’ai toujours été captivé par les tissus wax. Les motifs, les couleurs, et surtout le symbolisme que chaqun d’eux représente – une véritable richesse de la culture africaine ! 
  

  
Ce qui m’a toujours attiré dans le wax c’est qu’il est tellement différent à propos de ma culture, exotique même, et pour moi, c’est ce qui fait son charme !

  

  
L’histoire du tissu wax est longue et très intéressante. Commençant en Indonésie, produit et exporté par l’Hollande au 19e siècle et adopté par l’Afrique de l’Ouest, le wax est maintenant devenue une partie intégrale de l’identité de la mode africaine, qui branche de plus en plus loin de nos jours, sur la scène de la mode internationale. 

  

  
Le mélange des cultures est naturelle et peut être une chose de beauté quand fait avec respect.  Je sais qu’il y a beaucoup de tension concernant l’appropriation culturelle, alors ce que je vais dire, me semble très important et nécessaire à communiquer… 

Je porte cette merveilleuse robe en wax, par Demestiks New York, avec l’humilité, et le plus haut niveau de respect pour la culture noire.

  

Je la porte en sachant qu’on vit dans un monde ou les personnes de ma race, et j’ai honte de le dire, mais c’est vrai, volent la culture noir sans réfléchir et sans la donner le crédit qu’elle mérite.  

  

Je la porte pour payer hommage à l’histoire de la culture, et à la future des vies noir, qui mérite beaucoup plus que juste le moi de février pour être en vedette. 

  

Et je la porte parce que suis reconnaissante d’avoir eu le privilège d’avoir cette belle culture triomphante partagée avec moi chaque jour par la musique, le cinéma, la famille, et la mode, comme avec ce joli tissu wax. 

  

    
Robe, Demestiks New York – ici

Sandals, Ashley Stewart – ancien, mais j’adore ceux-ci 

N’oubliez pas, vous pouvez decouvrir les contributions de tout les autre fabuleuses blogeuses rondes, francophones au lien si dessous !

Ici !!! 

Ainsi que sur la page Facebook French Curves, et sur Instagram, @frenchcurvesfashion !
And now for my English speaking readers!

African waxprints or African wax prints are omnipresent and common materials for clothing in Africa, especially West Africa. They are industrially produced, colorful cotton cloths with batik printing. – Wikipedia 

I’ve always been captivated by waxprint. The patterns, the colours, and especially the symbolism that each represents – a true wealth of African culture!

What has always attracted me the most, is how they’re so different with regards to my culture, exotic even, and therein lies their charm! 

The history of waxprint is long and very interesting. It was created in Indonesia, then later produced and exported out of Holland in the 19th century, and adopted by West Africa, where it remains an integral part of the identity of African fashion, and is branching out more and more everyday onto the international fashion scene. 

The sharing of cultures is natural, and can be a thing of beauty when done with respect. I know there are major tensions concerning cultural appropriation, so what I’m about to say feels very important and necessary for me to communicate…

I’m wearing this stunning waxprint dress, from Demestiks New York with humility, and the utmost respect for black culture. 

I’m wearing it knowing that we live in a world where people of my race, and I’m ashamed to say it, though true, pillage the black culture without a second thought, and without giving it its due credit. 

I’m wearing it to pay homage to the history of the culture, and to the future black lives, which deserve so much more than just the month of February to shine. 

And I’m wearing it because I’m thankful to have theprivilege of having this beautiful, triumphant culture shared with me every day through music, movies, family, and fashion, like this gorgeous waxprint fabric!

Dress, Demestiks New York – here 

Sandals, Ashley Stewart – old, but I love these 

Be sure to check out all my fellow French Curvettes at the link below. 

Here!!! 

And go check us out on the French Curves Facebook page, and on Instagram, @frenchcurvesfashion, too!

Stop and Smell the Lilacs

Well, heyyyyy now! It’s been a minute since my last blog post! I actually shot these photos a couple of weeks ago (pre-haircut) and haven’t had time to write! 

Life has been a little busy lately… The academic year is wrapping up. The kids are doing exams. Little league and rugby have started up again; and just like that, the season for school concerts, ceremonies, and end of year festivities is upon us once more! 

Ahh, so much to do, so little time, and ooooh! It’s your third (and thank the Lord, last) recorder concert this year!? Why yes! I can’t wait!!! Because the recorder. Sounds. Awesome! *wince*

They’re my kids, I should love this sh*t, right!? But uuugh… I’m just so tired!!! And why do school gymnasiums seem to retain heat better than a cast iron skillet!? 
But anyway… As things wind down, sometimes you just have to take a moment to smell the roses, or in my case, the lilacs, and remember just how sweet life is, and how much we should appreciate the things we care about, and the ones we love, even when life gets chaotic!

  
Now I know y’all watched this resilient little tree behind me all winter, getting covered in snow, and then ice, then snow again. You watched it lose all of its leaves, and sprout new ones once more this spring, but I don’t think you’ve yet had the treat of seeing it in bloom! 

     

  

 It’s truly one of the most delightful visions – those gorgeous lilac blooms adorning what for most of the year, looks more like an overgrown weed, than anything else. 

  
I love how, for a few fleeting weeks in May, this otherwise very humble tree bursts to life, filling the air with its intixicating aroma, and enchanting mauve blossoms. 

  
It’s almost symbolic to me, because it goes to show that you just never really can tell what something, or who someone truly is until you’ve seen them flourishing in their element.

  
So, when I feel like there aren’t enough hours the day, days in the week, or enough time to attend yet another school play, party, or concert… I’ll let this lilac tree be a reminder of how much I love seeing the hard work my kids have done all year long in school. I love to see their faces lit up with pride as I witness what they’ve accomplished and put so much effort into, because ultimately, all they really want is to make me proud! 

As much as I complain, I hope they know just how honoured I am to have the privilege of being their mum, tobe able to one day, watch them blossom, much like that tree, into amazing young adults, and to know that these four wonderful people I created, will one day do amazing things!!! 

Dress, Addition Elle (old) – similar 

Leggings, Addition Elle – here

Shoes, Addition Elle (old) – love these

Much Ado About Mother’s Day 

  

I’d like to start off by saying that I garbage picked a park bench last Thursday and it has filled a void I didn’t realize I had, and now my life is complete… Aside from the fact that said bench will be appearing in most of the photos you’re about to see, this information isn’t really relevant to this post… I just felt like I had to tell you. I’m still pretty excited. 

Immediately after I found it and hoisted it up into my truck (as a nosey neighbour stared me down – yeah that’s right, I’m taking it!) I called my mum because I couldn’t contain my excitement. It was 7 AM and I woke her from a dead sleep… I knew I would as I dialed too, I just didn’t care. I had to share my life changing news!!! 

Me: “Mum!!! I just garbage picked a bench and it’s glorious!!!” My mother (in her telltale, throaty, where-am-I, I-just-woke-up [like this?] whisper): “What time is it?” 

Anyone who knows her, knows that when she’s sleeping, you don’t wake the beast… Let’s just say that in that moment she had less interest in my bench than she had the time I called her to come rescue me at 1 o’clock in the morning that time my dog got sprayed by a skunk… But that’s what moms are for – always there for you when you need saving, or feel like bragging about how awesome a scavenger you are in the wee hours of the morning.  

But there was much more than just my fantastic new (well, old) bench to celebrate over the weekend! 

It was Mother’s Day, a time to celebrate all those times when anyone but your mum would have just hung up in your face… And, for us, that usually means brunch with the entire gang (my mum, grandmother, aunts & uncles, cousins – the works). As any other organized outing often goes in my family, it also usually means at least one of my kids will get mad at something and either threaten to stay home, or have me threaten to leave them there, and it did, but I digress…

All the standard mom/bratty kid stuff aside (they do make it hard for us to love them sometimes, don’t they) I actually had a fabulous Mother’s Day! 

I had the most delicious smoked salmon eggs Benedict, spent time with the fam, and I looked hella cute too!!!

  

My Mother’s Day ensemble consisted of one of my fave new dresses – this completely adorable, floral T-shirt dress from ASOS, which is actually made from a wonderfully silky material, instead of the usual jersey, which was a pleasant and unexpected surprise. 

   
  

        

I love it’s casual style and minimalist silhouette, and it paired perfectly with my cute, eye motif, espadrille flatforms (another ASOS find). 

   
 I topped my look off with thee freaking coolest gold chain necklace and dice ring from Ready to Stare, and threw some more bling on my fingers for good measure, then I got ready to be showered with gifts for being the badass mom that I am!!! 

   
 
No seriously, I hit the jackpot! My daughter made me some pretty paper flowers! I got a lovely bouquet from my middle son. My little guy drew me a picture at preschool – and I quote: “Mum, you’re the fat one.” Gahhh, I love it!!! My oldest son gave me the rare gift of shooting my blog photos without complaining even once, when I said just a few more. Like… Not even an eye roll (okay, maybe one)… 

  
And for the cherry on top of my Mother’s Day sundae, the hubby picked me out an amazing perfume (La Vie Est Belle from Lancôme – SOOO nice) aaand, because he was looking so fresh, agreed to pose for so pictures!!! Whaaaaat!? I know right!? 

   

  

  

  

All in all, I can’t complain… I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again – I’m incredibly thankful for my family. They’re not perfect… My kids fight with each other (and me) like cats & dogs, my mum & grandmother both have a ridiculously well-honed ability to get under my skin, and my husband most definitely has his moments where I’d rather punch his face off instead of kiss it… But I wouldn’t trade any of them for the world, and I can only hope they feel the same way about me… Fingers crossed!!! 

  
Dress, ASOS – here 

Shoes, ASOS – here 

Necklace, Ready to Stare – here 

Dice ring, Ready to Stare – here

Hubby’s outfit, in case anyone’s curious:

Shirt, Forever 21 – similar style 

Pants, Zara – similar 

Belt, Coach – here 

Shoes, ASOS – here

Confident to the Maxi

 

I remember when I first really noticed a woman in a maxi dress. It was sometime during the mid 2000s, and she had “the perfect body” (or at least the body I hadn’t realized yet, wasn’t the only kind anyone thought was beautiful). I’m sure I had seen others before her, sashaying about in ankle-length dresses, but this girl just caught my attention. In my still unaccepting-of-my-own-body mind, she was everything I wished I could be. Slim, large-breasted, beautiful, and she seemed to almost float along in that long, flowy dress like nothing else mattered but her and the breeze that lifted her hem every now and again, to reveal her ultra chic gladiator sandals, and perfect pedicure… 

She was noticeable, right down to her bohemian, beaded necklace, and bangles that slid all the way up her slender arms, to her elbows when she lifted her hand to brush the hair from her face. 

I realize now, all these years later, that what I was so captivated by wasn’t this girl’s seemingly perfect silhouette, but rather, her confidence. 

I never would have guessed then, that I could feel as good as she looked in that dress… I never could have imagined that her intoxicating vibe was something that I could have for my very own… But now I see it. Now, finally after all these years, I love my body, and when I step out the door in a gorgeous maxi dress, I know I look just as striking as she did. I know I walk with the same ease and carelessness as I remember her doing so well… And I know others see it too. 

See, it’s not about having the perfect body. It’s not about having slim arms, or large breasts. None of those things will ever give you the intangible quality that I couldn’t quite pin down, until I experienced what self-love truly was for myself. 

That woman felt beautiful, and that’s what drew me to her. I feel beautiful, and that’s what was shining through when I wore this stunning maxi from SexyPlus Clothing.

Once I stepped into it, I didn’t want to take it off, so I decided to take my look from day to night! 

For daytime, I paired it with pretty, embellished sandals, sunnies, a straw hat, gold bangles (of course) and my Lilly Pulitzer for Target straw bag (my only score from the great Lilly for Target fiasco/triumph). 

   
     And for my evening look, I switched out my sandals, hat, and beach bag for a cute pair of cork wedges, a vintage clutch, a great necklace, and a fab black tuxedo style bolero from SexyPlus, and headed off for a date night with my hubby! 

   

   

Maxi dresses are super versatile, and really transition well from day to evening. This particular one is so fun, because it combines animal print and paisley, for a really fun combination of wild and classic. 

Just a little note, I actually sized down in this dress, as it is made very generously, but I would recommend ordering your usual size if you’re particularly boobalicious (which I’m not). I have very big hips, and as you can see, even when sizing down, the cut is roomy. 

So, while I must admit, I still yearn for a set of bangles that can actually slide all the way up to my elbows (seriously, where can I get some of those?)… I feel pretty f*cking fabulous in this dress!!!  

I can say with a huge degree of certainty, that if I had known then, back when I first saw that woman looking effortlessly cool in her maxi, that the greatest detail of her outfit was her confidence, my life would have gone a lot differently… But the important thing is that one fine day, I did learn her secret. I did start to love myself, and now, I can rock a maxi like nobodies business, and it feels glorious!!! 

Because you’re all so amazing, please use, code FREEFLIGHT to get free shipping from SexyPlus from now till May 25th 2015! Don’t miss out! This dress is still available in this print, as well as in a couple of others!!!

Dress, SexyPlus – here or other prints, here & here 

Tuxedo bolero, SexyPlus – here or similar, here 


Weekend Essentials

Ok, so I’m not even gonna lie… I spend most of my weekends in pyjamas – not because I’m lazy, but because I can. And I’m cool with that. 

But I do love a great outfit for those days when I have no choice but to get out and be productive! The perfect weekend ensemble has got to start with some great basics!

When it comes to effortlessly chic basics, it simply doesn’t get any better than these amazing leggings and this super cute, tank top from SexyPlus Clothing! 

   

   

I always love breaking fashion “rules” so this combination of black and navy is really fun! 

   

     

Paired with a cute white blazer from Torrid, some bold, gold jewelry, sunnies, and a great bag, this nautical look has a classic feel; and these fabulous, black patent flatforms from ASOS lend it an edgy twist! 

 

    

  

 

I was definitely feeling myself in these great pieces… So much, in fact, that I may actually make an effort to get dressed again tomorrow! 

  

Enjoy the rest of your weekend, loves, I know I will (even if it just started raining here in Montreal)!!! 

Top, SexyPlus – similar 

Leggings, SexyPlus – similar

Blazer, Torrid – here

Handbag, Louis Vuitton – here 

Shoes, ASOS – here 

A Romp in the Snow



So… It’s finally warming up around here… Slowly but surely the sun has started shining, the streets are trickling with melted run off, the war with my children against going outside in just a T-shirt has resumed, and  the birds are at last, singing their happy springtime song after a winter that was cold enough to freeze the balls of a brass monkey!!!

 Of course along with spring, comes the entire nation, all melting at once, allowing every piece of rubbish, every dead animal, and every dog poop that has accumulated all winter, to thaw in unison, resulting in, let’s be honest, one hell of a stinky cocktail! 

There’s also, still quite a thick covering of snow on the ground, and sure… You get hit with a face-full every now and again, as it blows off a rooftop… No seriously, here I am, actually getting  blasted with a gust of drifting snow.





But it’s all good, because I just look that cute in my jeggings, combat boots, and my Love & Legend, NOIR sweatshirt from Addition Elle!!! 





I’m SO looking forward to seeing grass on the ground, leaves on the trees, and to getting hit in the face with the sweet smell of lilacs rather than snow, but for now, I’m not complaining… 

Because at least it’s not -1,000,000º anymore, and I can actually be adorable in the snow, like… I romped… ROMPED, damnit! Just like they do it in the movies, and without the cold freezer-burning my face off!!! Hashtag awesomesauce. 

Jeggings, Addition Elle – similar

Sweatshirt, Addition Elle – here

 

Spring Break

It’s the last day of spring break here in Montreal (even though, technically it’s not spring yet and still looks and feels like the dead of winter) and I am SO over all this snow… Like… O.V.E.R. I.T.

But, since there’s not much else I can do (besides complain, and curse the part of the world in which I live) I’m doing the next best thing… Going into complete denial. Ha!!! 

In my mind, at least for today, spring is sprung, the grass is riz… And the birdies… The birdies, you ask…? I’m pretty sure they’ve mostly all frozen to death, but, there are probably still a few out there… Somewhere. 

So here I is – bare-legged and feeling fierce, decked out in the most amazing floral shift dress from ASOS CURVE! 





I’ve paired it with some pretty pearl studs going all the way up my ears, and a simple, nude, beaded necklace from Walmart, for an edgy, granny chic look, which, let’s be honest, is perfectly topped off by my pastel purple hair! 

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And who cares that I completely destroyed my favorite flats!? (Actually I do… Why did I wear these in the snow? Gahhh!!!) 

Necklace, Walmart – available in store

Dress, ASOS CURVE – here (and on sale!!!)