This Just In

This Just In

First of all, look at me!!! Look at me!!! No, seriously… LOOK AT ME!!! My hair is straightened!!! Ahhh!!! (I did not do this CAN not do this myself, so this is BIG!)  Secondly – it finally arrived!!! I’d been waiting so impatiently for my package from Babooshka Boutique, and this week it finally arrived!!! I’m a little excited, in case you couldn’t tell.

A little while ago I ordered one of Babooshka Boutique’s fabulous design your own faux leather vent-tees and a couple of their great turbans, and I couldn’t be more pleased! As a plus sized girl, it is always fun when a “regular size” manufacturer’s product can accommodate my full figured frame; and this gorgeous, oversized vented tee (in an XL, their largest size – I usually wear a 2x 0r 18/20 on top) does exactly that, and flawlessly! There are quite a few items that look very generously cut as well, so if you know your body and are interested, don’t be scared to take a look!

I went with the charcoal grey jersey (so soft, like, OMG) and matte white sleeves, and I have to say, I’m really digging the combination! I love the modern silhouette of this top and its versatility. You could wear it with a cute pair of shorts, leggings, (which is what I went with) or even over a basic bodycon dress or skirt, if you’re feeling playful! I’ve paired my outfit with a great pair of grey, faux alligator pumps from Payless, silver earrings and a fun spiked bracelet from Addition Elle, for a clean, chic look that is smart and sophisticated, yet comfortable beyond belief.

Stay tuned over the next couple of days to see how I’ve been playing around with the turbans!  So much fun!!!

The Beauty of Black & White

The Beauty of Black & White

When I see myself in a black & white photo, when the lighting is just right and I’m looking elegant and fabulous, I secretly wish that color didn’t exist and that I could look like this every moment of my life.

Don’t get me wrong, I love color; but there is something to be said for the timeless elegance of a great black & white shot! Not only do they camouflage a multitude of pigment related sins (like my rosacea) effortlessly, but the right B & W photo, with the contrast tweaked just perfectly, has this way of making anyone look like an old time Hollywood movie star.

There is a certain mystique – a curiosity about old photographs that I have long been fascinated with. What color was her dress? I wonder what color lipstick that was? Do you think it was red? Yes, red, it must have been red…

So add a little old world glamour to your selfie repertoire! Play around with your black & white photo editing options and let your inner Hollywood shine through!

The Beauty of Black & White

The Beauty of Black & White

When I see myself in a black & white photo, when the lighting is just right and I’m looking elegant and fabulous, I secretly wish that color didn’t exist and that I could look like this every moment of my life.

Don’t get me wrong, I love color; but there is something to be said for the timeless elegance of a great black & white shot! Not only do they camouflage a multitude of pigment related sins (like my rosacea) effortlessly, but the right B & W photo, with the contrast tweaked just perfectly, has this way of making anyone look like an old time Hollywood movie star.

There is a certain mystique – a curiosity about old photographs that I have long been fascinated with. What color was her dress? I wonder what color lipstick that was? Do you think it was red? Yes, red, it must have been red…

So add a little old world glamour to your selfie repertoire! Play around with your black & white photo editing options and let your inner Hollywood shine through!

Olive You

Army Green & Gold

Olive green is one of my favorite colors to wear and I don’t know why I don’t have more of it in my closet. I doubt there is a skin tone/hair color that olive green doesn’t compliment (and if there is, I stand corrected).

This olive green sweater with gold shoulder & elbow detail from Addition Elle is just perfect with a pair of skinny jeans and a cute pair of shoes, such as these leopard print flats with hot pink bows for an unexpected splash of color.

This is a great casual, weekend look that can be worn as is or taken to the next level with some chunky jewelry for a trendy, put-together look that is as comfy as it is cute!

Sweater, jeans, bracelets, watch and ring – Addition Elle

Shoes – Walmart

Necklace, earrings – Aldo

The Perfect White Blouse

The Perfect White Blouse

What can I say? This blouse from Addition Elle is absolutely perfect. There is no other way to describe it. It fits like a dream.  Its high-low hemline drapes in just the right way to show off gorgeous, round hips and it has just the right amount of detail to give it an edge.

I’ve paired it with mixed metal accessories including a chain belt, pewter colored, super-low wedge shoes and a simple cotton, black legging. A minimalist hairstyle compliments this very chic look nicely without adding too much fuss and a lined 90’s inspired lip gives it a sassy twist.

Blouse, leggings, belt, Addition Elle

http://www.additionelle.com/henley-blouse-with-studs/21529352,default,pd.html?start=3&cgid=AE&q=white%20blouse

http://www.additionelle.com/cotton-spandex-legging/723203,default,pd.html?dwvar_723203_color=Black&start=8&cgid=AE-Apparel-Leggings

http://www.additionelle.com/intricate-chain-belt/724352,default,pd.html?dwvar_724352_color=silver&start=4&cgid=AE&q=metal%20belt

Shoes by Rocket Dog

Lest We Forget – Souvenons-Nous

Lest We Forget

Today, as we should each day, we remember those who fought, gave their lives and continue to fight for our country and our freedom. We all lead busy lives, but please take a moment to honour our soldiers and veterans on this day for the sacrifices they have made for us, our children and for generations to come. Thank you.

Aujourd’hui, alors que nous devrions chaque jour, nous nous souvenons de ceux qui ont combattu, ont donné leur vie et ceux qui continuent à se battre pour notre pays et notre liberté. Nous menons tous des vies chargées, mais SVP prenez un moment pour rendre hommage à nos soldats et anciens combattants aujourd’hui pour les sacrifices qu’ils ont consentis pour nous, nos enfants et les générations à venir. Je vous remercie.

Insert Cougar Joke Here

Insert Cougar Joke Here

Rawr!!! Am I right? Haha…

This on trend, animal print, evening look is perfect for date night! These ultra chic leopard print 7/8 pants by Michel Studio certainly steal the show, and are paired stylishly with a solid black, cold shoulder top with gold detail, cognac colored, studded pleather jacket, black & gold leopard head skinny belt, double cross necklace and of course, red flats for a sassy splash of comfortable color. A perfect ensemble for dinner and a movie or for dancing the night away! My hubby DEFINITELY approves!!!

7/8 Pants, Addition Elle

http://www.additionelle.com/michel-studio-printed-7/8-pant/308094,default,pd.html?dwvar_308094_color=black&start=16&cgid=AE&q=pants

Jacket, Addition Elle

http://www.additionelle.com/pleather-jacket-with-studs/724231,default,pd.html?dwvar_724231_color=cognac&start=20&cgid=AE&q=jacket

Belt, Addition Elle

http://www.additionelle.com/leopard-head-jean-belt/309257,default,pd.html?dwvar_309257_color=black&start=4&cgid=AE&q=leopard

Top & Necklace, Walmart

Shoes, Payless

http://www.payless.com/store/product/detail.jsp?catId=cat10088&subCatId=cat10276&skuId=133239050&productId=73330&lotId=133239&category=&catdisplayName=Womens

Our Children, Reflections of Ourselves

Our Children, Reflections of Ourselves

What are we teaching our children when we call ourselves ugly? What are we showing them when we look in the mirror and criticize our imperfections? I had never given it much thought until I started noticing one of my own children putting herself down.

This is my daughter. She is almost 11 years old, gorgeous, a little bit chubby, and is already showing signs of low self esteem. She’s already starting to call herself fat; and not the “I am fat girl, hear me roar” kind of fat… But the “I am worthless because I have a pudgy belly and round hips” fat. I’ve always told her she was beautiful, told her she had value, told her not to listen to those who tried to bring her down; but what had I missed? The answer is, that I had overlooked probably the most important factor of all; myself.

My daughter LOVES clothes, just like me. She loves makeup, just like me. She loves shopping… I think you get the point. It’s obvious that I’ve influenced my daughter greatly. So why weren’t my words of encouragement working? Why was she using the word fat as an insult to her own body? The answer: Because that is what I had taught her.

All those times that I criticized myself in the mirror, sucked in my tummy, called myself disgusting; she was there. All those times that I refused to wear sleeveless tops because I said my arms were too flabby; she was there. All those times that I was depressed because I thought other women looked better than me; she was there… A silent observer, taking in every bit of what she saw.

When I finally realized the answer to my question, it was so simple. I felt like such a failure for having exposed my beautiful girl to all of the things I had tried so hard to save her from. I felt guilty. Through all of my efforts to boost her confidence, she had watched me destroying my own. Not only had I taught her the behavior, but I had also ruined any credibility my words of encouragement to her had had; for how could she take me seriously when I was being such a hypocrite?

The day I realized what I had been doing to her was the day I decided that I would stop letting my flaws define how I talked about myself. I would stop obsessing about what I wanted to change and start focusing on what I liked about my body.

I had already learned to love my face (oh, how many headshots my Facebook friends had been exposed to over the years; smiles, intense stares, and yes, even a few duckfaces). But more recently, because of my reality check, I learned to accept my body for what it was. I stopped wishing I had a flat tummy; I stopped saying ‘if only my ______ wasn’t so fat’. I started truly appreciating my curvy hips, my defined waist and my great legs, among other things. And it was funny, because oddly enough, I ended up liking more things about my body, than not. Through it all. my daughter continued to observe me; and she still does.

She now watches me as I look in the mirror admiring my curves instead of trying to cover them up. She sees me taking pictures of myself and she reads my blog (she is super proud of me, by the way). I have explained to her that I will never let the word FAT insult me or use it to insult myself again and that instead, I will use it with pride. Most of all, I have promised her that I will be a positive example from now on.

My hope is that the damage can be undone; that she learns to love her body the way I have. I pray that she realizes that she is beautiful; that she trusts me when I tell her so and that she never has to spend another moment believing that being fat means being worthless.

Baby girl, this one is for you!!! XOXO

At Ease in Stripes & Spikes

At Ease in Stripes & Spikes

One of my favorite ways to achieve new and edgy looks is to use inspiration from much more extreme and less mainstream styles. This casual, punk rock inspired look conveys the essence of it’s inspiration through the combining of bold stripes, and chunky, silver & black accessories, including cuff style & spiked bracelets, an oversized ball chain necklace and a great black leather look waist belt with lock and chain detail. The tuxedo stripe skinny jeans and almond shaped, patent leather look captoe flats evoke a military feel which is a major element in punk rock style.  Striking lips, superlight pink nails and soft, flowing, side swept hair complete this look for a perfectly balanced, punk chic style that is both classic and daring at the same time.

The details are what keep this look so balanced between subtlety and boldness because they are put together in such a way that you know exactly which style has inspired the look without feeling like it’s been overdone. .

Cuff bracelets, heart charm bracelet, belt, top and jeans – Addition Elle

Shoes – Payless

(The necklace, I’ve had for a long time and truly can’t remember… Sorry!!!)

At Ease in Stripes & Spikes

At Ease in Stripes & Spikes

One of my favorite ways to achieve new and edgy looks is to use inspiration from much more extreme and less mainstream styles. This casual, punk rock inspired look conveys the essence of it’s inspiration through the combining of bold stripes, and chunky, silver & black accessories, including cuff style & spiked bracelets, an oversized ball chain necklace and a great black leather look waist belt with lock and chain detail. The tuxedo stripe skinny jeans and almond shaped, patent leather look captoe flats evoke a military feel which is a major element in punk rock style.  Striking lips, superlight pink nails and soft, flowing, side swept hair complete this look for a perfectly balanced, punk chic style that is both classic and daring at the same time.

The details are what keep this look so balanced between subtlety and boldness because they are put together in such a way that you know exactly which style has inspired the look without feeling like it’s been overdone. .

Cuff bracelets, heart charm bracelet, belt, top and jeans – Addition Elle

Shoes – Payless

(The necklace, I’ve had for a long time and truly can’t remember… Sorry!!!)