Don’t Flatter Yourself, Cupcake

“That designer should be fired,” they said… “Not flattering at all,” they said… “Even the model looks unhappy to be wearing it,” they said… But what did Alysse Delassandro, designer (and said “unhappy” model) of the controversial Ready To Stare Convertible Cupcake Dress say…?

Fuck you to flattering fat girl clothes,” and I couldn’t agree more!

I saw it on Facebook first, back around the time her holiday collection launched — the nasty comments, all because a designer dared to challenge society’s idea of what plus size fashion should be.



Even though I’ve learned not to be surprised by the closed-mindedness of people on the Internet, I couldn’t help but be a little bit shocked that so many plus size women themselves couldn’t see how empowering a statement this dress (which can also be worn as a skirt) truly was.



I get it though, I don’t feel this way personally, but I get it — we, as fat women, have fought so hard to wear form fitting clothes and be accepted by society, that the idea of wearing a piece that hides our curves seems scary — but it’s not.



In fact, it’s probably no more scary than the first time a fat woman wore a bodycon dress, which, newsflash — angry conformists everywhere probably had a problem with too!

 What Alysse has done, is go up against the standard, which was once a controversy itself, and say, it’s time to forge further and conquer new territory in plus size fashion! It’s time to step out of these stagnant waters and allow ourselves to accept that we have a right to wear any style a thin person can, whether society deems it “flattering” or not!

All of that aside, I love this dress. I loved it even as my eyes were drawn down into vitriol being spewed in the comments section, and not just because I think everything Alysse touches turns to gaudy, yellow gold (in the most perfect possible sense, of course) but because it’s playful, bold, and one of the most couture plus size pieces I’ve seen this year.



So as it comes to a close, and we ready ourselves to stare 2016 in the face, I wish you all very happy holidays, as I prance through the snow in festive red, woven with gold, that, like its name suggests, looks good enough to eat!

Dress, Ready To Stare – here

Shoes, Shoes Of Prey, designed by me- design your own here

Necklace, Forever 21+ – old, similar

Shawl coat, Forever 21+ – old, similar

Above 0° In Point Zero Curvy 

I’m all about staying cute and cozy during the holidays. With the snow on the ground, the icicles adorning the rooftops… Err… I mean, the mucky grass, unseasonably warm temperatures, no snow whatsoever, and with an inevitable green Christmas just around the corner, looking cute and staying just cozy enough has challenged our usual wintertime outerwear conceptions.

If there’s one thing I know, it’s that the folks over at Point Zero have always known how to do winter! But this year, their Point Zero Curvy collection is remarkably suited for our record breakingly warm December, letting us know that they were definitely at the top of their game in predicting that this winter, cozy layers would be exactly what Mother Nature ordered!


This fantastic Point Zero Curvy, faux-shearling vest, is the epitome of rustic chic!


Paired with their super comfy, printed leggings, and beautiful winter white (oh, the irony), embellished, peasant style blouse


this is the ideal look for sipping hot apple cider, mulled wine, or hot cocoa (with marshmallows AND extra whipped cream, of course), and getting together with friends and family from near and far, to nibble on gingerbread, and enjoy the merriment of the season.

And for any last minute Christmas shopping (because that’s how I roll), or for hitting those amazing Boxing Day sales, this PZ Curvy, faux-fur trimmed poncho is luxurious perfection!


Paired with their faux-leather trimmed leggings, and stunning black tee with sheer detail, this truly is the most gorgeous, and most importantly, comfortable outfit, that is suitable not only for hitting the shops, but for any other casual holiday get together, where a little touch of glam is called for!


As always, it is such a pleasure supporting Canadian brands, like Point Zero Curvy! With quality pieces like these in my closet, I know that this winter, I’m well covered, both literally and figuratively!

 


 You can shop the entire collection at pointzero.ca (for my fellow hosers, eh), or at pointzero.com for international customers, as well as in store at SexyPlus clothing!

Be sure to follow Point Zero Curvy on Facebook and Instagram @pointzerocurvy, to keep up to date on their latest collections and promotions!
Faux-shearling vest, Point Zero Curvy

Printed leggings, Point Zero Curvy – here

Peasant style blouse, Point Zero Curvy – here

Ponch, Point Zero Curvy – here

Faux-leather trimmed leggings, Point Zero Curvy – here

Black tee with sheer detail, Point Zero Curvy

I’m Baaack

I suppose I owe everyone a bit of an explanation as to why I seemed to have all but disappeared from the blogging world for about two months… It wasn’t intentional — I haven’t been on vacation (unfortunately), nor have I been lacking amazing content to bring to you lovelies…

Not long after my birthday, at the beginning of November, my husband became very ill and was hospitalized. We weren’t sure if he was going to make it or not. It was one of the biggest scares I’ve ever had, and it really put life into perspective for me.

Before you start worrying, everything is fine — he has made a full recovery, thank God! His illness was brief, but severe, and thankfully he was soon back home in my arms, where he belonged!

Understandably, this was a very stressful event in my life, and I have found it difficult, until now, to even try to wrap my mind around blogging, but throughout it all, I kept feeling this guilt over staying away from my amazing followers, so much so, that it made me avoid anything blog related, because it reminded me too much of how I missed it!!!

I’m thrilled to say that I’m back, and I’m ready to show off a fabulous look that I shot way back in November, which was originally supposed to be featured in that month’s French Curves post. For obvious reasons, it never saw the light of day, but I thought it a shame to waste the shots and not share!

     

This is, hands down, thee most amazing fleece cape/poncho/shawl (which is how I will be referring to it, since I’m not really sure which word describes it best), and would you believe, it was purchased from Costco!? Freaking COSTCO!!!

Who knew a boxed cape/poncho/shawl from Costco, (and when I say boxed, I’m talking a men’s-underwear-mega-value-8-pack style box) could have the potential to be so chic!?




I paired it with my fave jorts from Penningtons, which I’ve fall/winterized by wearing over a great pair of printed tights from Addition Elle. I love how the wild and sexy leopard print plays against the super classic houndstooth print, and they look so cute with my wooly, Penningtons booties!

Underneath, I wore an an oldie but a goodie, my military inspired, high neck top from Great Glam, which I’ve had for years, and continue to adore!


Last but surely not least, let’s talk about my favourite new accessory — these totally gorge leather & faux-fur mittens, from Little Burgundy!!! I can’t even with these mitts! They’re so fab!!!


This is the absolute perfect outfit for the unusually mild fall/winter we’ve been having here in Montreal, and it has provided me with one of the two very valuable life lessons I’ve learned over the past couple of months:



#1, Life is fragile, so remember to tell the ones you love just how much they mean to you, because at any moment without warning, you could find yourself in danger of losing them; and #2, never turn your nose up at boxed Costco clothing, it may very well end up being the chicest thing in your closet one day!


Cape/poncho/shawl, Costco – maybe still available in store

Jean shorts, Penningtons – old

Booties, Penningtons – possibly still in store

Tights, Addition Elle – here

Top, Great Glam – old

Mittens, Little Burgundy – here

Point Zero Curvy – Weekend 

When I’m not lounging all day in my PJs on weekends, I’m all about feeling comfy and looking stylish!

In this edition of my Point Zero Curvy series, where I’ve styled three looks, in three days, mixing and matching 5 different pieces from the line, I’m bringing you a weekend look!

Yesterday I brought you the perfect Point Zero Curvy work look, which included a fabulous faux-leather moto jacket, and today I’m showing how it can transition with ease into your casual weekend wardrobe.

I’ve paired it with the most gorgeous, black, shimmery pants, which marry the look of a structured jean with the comfort of of leggings…

 

And this amazing, slightly sheer, graphic tee, laced delicately with little flecks of sparkle.

  
I accessorized with cute, nude flats and gold jewelry.

Together, these three PZ Curvy pieces create an essentially monochromatic black-on-black look, but with a touch of colour, while blending three totally different textures for a really interesting, relaxed, yet very chic weekend look!


The Point Zero Curvy line is definitely worth ditching the PJs for, on a Saturday afternoon, and that’s not a claim that I make lightly, so you know I’m being honest!


Stay tuned tomorrow to see the final instalment in the Point Zero Curvy series, and to see which of the pieces from yesterday and today’s posts that I’ve reworked into the perfect date night look!

You can shop the Point Zero Curvy line at pointzero.ca or point-zero.com for international customers, as well as in store at retailers such as SexyPlus Clothing, in Mississauga, Ontario.
And be sure to follow Point Zero on Facebook and Instagram @pointzeroclothing, to keep up to date on their latest collections and promotions!
Top, pants, jacket, Point Zero Curvy – shop the collection here.

View part 1 of my Point Zero Curvy mix and match series here.

Keeping Up With The Penningtons 

It’s been a minute since I’ve given you an update on the goings-on over on The Penningtons Blog!

In one post, I held a vote on which Penningtons look I would sport on my flight to Haiti!


And in my next post, I showed you that #1 was the undisputed pick for flying in style and comfort!

But don’t think that #2, and 3 didn’t get to see Haiti’s sunny shores…


Vacays can’t last forever, unfortunately, and it’s always tough to get back into the work grind afterwards, but when your job involves writing a post about your life, your passion (duhhh, cheesecake — I mean blogging!!!), and how you got there, coming home doesn’t seem so bad!

So be sure to head over and read up on what’s been happening with me on The Penningtons Blog, and don’t forget to check in just about every week to keep up!

A Tale Of Interspecies Love

I’m telling you right now — this faux-fur MBLM vest from Penningtons is life itself.

It doesn’t even require an intro. It is the intro. It also happens to be the body, and the conclusion, because it’s… Just. That. Good.



It looks like the product of one night of passion between a pheasant and a llamaa (which, in case you were wondering, is as fabulous as it is impossible).

It is, without a doubt, one of my most prized pieces this season!

I’ve paired it with these amazing ripped jeans and thee most perfect black tee ever, both from Penningtons as well.


To top off the look, some sexy heels and silver bling, and of course, a great pair of specs from Zenni Optical!


  
I will definitely be staying chic and keeping cozy in my faux-llamapheasant vest allllll fallllll lonnnnng, but I must admit I’ll be wondering… What came first, the llamapheasant, or the egg???

Vest, Penningtons – here

Jeans, Penningtons – here

Tee, Penningtons – here

Glasses, Zenni Optical – here

French Curves: WAX

Better late than never, here’s my May submission to the French Curves Challenge, an outfit photo challenge with the French touch, created by the beautiful Vanoue, of The Curvy and Curly Closet, occurring (usually, oops) the 16th of each month! This month’s theme: Wax!!!

As always, a translation will follow the French text, for all my beautiful Anglo babes (and beaus)!

Mieux en retard que jamais, voici ma soumission pour le mois de mai au French Curves Challenge, le photo challenge avec la touche française, créé pas la belle Vanoue de The Curvy and Curly Closet !!! Le thème ce moi: Wax !

Le wax (de l’anglais « wax » signifiant cire), également appelé « tissu africain », est un textile de coton ayant reçu sur les deux faces un cirage lui conférant des propriétés hydrophobes. Les cires utilisées sont colorées et forment des motifs qui varient à l’infini dans une recherche esthétique. – Wikipédia

J’ai toujours été captivé par les tissus wax. Les motifs, les couleurs, et surtout le symbolisme que chaqun d’eux représente – une véritable richesse de la culture africaine ! 
 


Ce qui m’a toujours attiré dans le wax c’est qu’il est tellement différent à propos de ma culture, exotique même, et pour moi, c’est ce qui fait son charme !

 


L’histoire du tissu wax est longue et très intéressante. Commençant en Indonésie, produit et exporté par l’Hollande au 19e siècle et adopté par l’Afrique de l’Ouest, le wax est maintenant devenue une partie intégrale de l’identité de la mode africaine, qui branche de plus en plus loin de nos jours, sur la scène de la mode internationale. 

 


Le mélange des cultures est naturelle et peut être une chose de beauté quand fait avec respect.  Je sais qu’il y a beaucoup de tension concernant l’appropriation culturelle, alors ce que je vais dire, me semble très important et nécessaire à communiquer… 

Je porte cette merveilleuse robe en wax, par Demestiks New York, avec l’humilité, et le plus haut niveau de respect pour la culture noire.

 

Je la porte en sachant qu’on vit dans un monde ou les personnes de ma race, et j’ai honte de le dire, mais c’est vrai, volent la culture noir sans réfléchir et sans la donner le crédit qu’elle mérite.  

 

Je la porte pour payer hommage à l’histoire de la culture, et à la future des vies noir, qui mérite beaucoup plus que juste le moi de février pour être en vedette. 

 

Et je la porte parce que suis reconnaissante d’avoir eu le privilège d’avoir cette belle culture triomphante partagée avec moi chaque jour par la musique, le cinéma, la famille, et la mode, comme avec ce joli tissu wax. 

 

  
Robe, Demestiks New York – ici

Sandals, Ashley Stewart – ancien, mais j’adore ceux-ci 

N’oubliez pas, vous pouvez decouvrir les contributions de tout les autre fabuleuses blogeuses rondes, francophones au lien si dessous !

Ici !!!

Ainsi que sur la page Facebook French Curves, et sur Instagram, @frenchcurvesfashion !
And now for my English speaking readers!

African waxprints or African wax prints are omnipresent and common materials for clothing in Africa, especially West Africa. They are industrially produced, colorful cotton cloths with batik printing. – Wikipedia

I’ve always been captivated by waxprint. The patterns, the colours, and especially the symbolism that each represents – a true wealth of African culture!

What has always attracted me the most, is how they’re so different with regards to my culture, exotic even, and therein lies their charm!

The history of waxprint is long and very interesting. It was created in Indonesia, then later produced and exported out of Holland in the 19th century, and adopted by West Africa, where it remains an integral part of the identity of African fashion, and is branching out more and more everyday onto the international fashion scene.

The sharing of cultures is natural, and can be a thing of beauty when done with respect. I know there are major tensions concerning cultural appropriation, so what I’m about to say feels very important and necessary for me to communicate…

I’m wearing this stunning waxprint dress, from Demestiks New York with humility, and the utmost respect for black culture.

I’m wearing it knowing that we live in a world where people of my race, and I’m ashamed to say it, though true, pillage the black culture without a second thought, and without giving it its due credit.

I’m wearing it to pay homage to the history of the culture, and to the future black lives, which deserve so much more than just the month of February to shine.

And I’m wearing it because I’m thankful to have theprivilege of having this beautiful, triumphant culture shared with me every day through music, movies, family, and fashion, like this gorgeous waxprint fabric!

Dress, Demestiks New York – here

Sandals, Ashley Stewart – old, but I love these

Be sure to check out all my fellow French Curvettes at the link below.

Here!!!

And go check us out on the French Curves Facebook page, and on Instagram, @frenchcurvesfashion, too!

Stop and Smell the Lilacs

Well, heyyyyy now! It’s been a minute since my last blog post! I actually shot these photos a couple of weeks ago (pre-haircut) and haven’t had time to write!

Life has been a little busy lately… The academic year is wrapping up. The kids are doing exams. Little league and rugby have started up again; and just like that, the season for school concerts, ceremonies, and end of year festivities is upon us once more!

Ahh, so much to do, so little time, and ooooh! It’s your third (and thank the Lord, last) recorder concert this year!? Why yes! I can’t wait!!! Because the recorder. Sounds. Awesome! *wince*

They’re my kids, I should love this sh*t, right!? But uuugh… I’m just so tired!!! And why do school gymnasiums seem to retain heat better than a cast iron skillet!?
But anyway… As things wind down, sometimes you just have to take a moment to smell the roses, or in my case, the lilacs, and remember just how sweet life is, and how much we should appreciate the things we care about, and the ones we love, even when life gets chaotic!


Now I know y’all watched this resilient little tree behind me all winter, getting covered in snow, and then ice, then snow again. You watched it lose all of its leaves, and sprout new ones once more this spring, but I don’t think you’ve yet had the treat of seeing it in bloom!

 

 It’s truly one of the most delightful visions – those gorgeous lilac blooms adorning what for most of the year, looks more like an overgrown weed, than anything else.


I love how, for a few fleeting weeks in May, this otherwise very humble tree bursts to life, filling the air with its intixicating aroma, and enchanting mauve blossoms.


It’s almost symbolic to me, because it goes to show that you just never really can tell what something, or who someone truly is until you’ve seen them flourishing in their element.


So, when I feel like there aren’t enough hours the day, days in the week, or enough time to attend yet another school play, party, or concert… I’ll let this lilac tree be a reminder of how much I love seeing the hard work my kids have done all year long in school. I love to see their faces lit up with pride as I witness what they’ve accomplished and put so much effort into, because ultimately, all they really want is to make me proud!

As much as I complain, I hope they know just how honoured I am to have the privilege of being their mum, tobe able to one day, watch them blossom, much like that tree, into amazing young adults, and to know that these four wonderful people I created, will one day do amazing things!!!

Dress, Addition Elle (old) – similar

Leggings, Addition Elle – here

Shoes, Addition Elle (old) – love these

Much Ado About Mother’s Day 

I’d like to start off by saying that I garbage picked a park bench last Thursday and it has filled a void I didn’t realize I had, and now my life is complete… Aside from the fact that said bench will be appearing in most of the photos you’re about to see, this information isn’t really relevant to this post… I just felt like I had to tell you. I’m still pretty excited.

Immediately after I found it and hoisted it up into my truck (as a nosey neighbour stared me down – yeah that’s right, I’m taking it!) I called my mum because I couldn’t contain my excitement. It was 7 AM and I woke her from a dead sleep… I knew I would as I dialed too, I just didn’t care. I had to share my life changing news!!!

Me: “Mum!!! I just garbage picked a bench and it’s glorious!!!” My mother (in her telltale, throaty, where-am-I, I-just-woke-up [like this?] whisper): “What time is it?” 

Anyone who knows her, knows that when she’s sleeping, you don’t wake the beast… Let’s just say that in that moment she had less interest in my bench than she had the time I called her to come rescue me at 1 o’clock in the morning that time my dog got sprayed by a skunk… But that’s what moms are for – always there for you when you need saving, or feel like bragging about how awesome a scavenger you are in the wee hours of the morning.

But there was much more than just my fantastic new (well, old) bench to celebrate over the weekend!

It was Mother’s Day, a time to celebrate all those times when anyone but your mum would have just hung up in your face… And, for us, that usually means brunch with the entire gang (my mum, grandmother, aunts & uncles, cousins – the works). As any other organized outing often goes in my family, it also usually means at least one of my kids will get mad at something and either threaten to stay home, or have me threaten to leave them there, and it did, but I digress…

All the standard mom/bratty kid stuff aside (they do make it hard for us to love them sometimes, don’t they) I actually had a fabulous Mother’s Day!

I had the most delicious smoked salmon eggs Benedict, spent time with the fam, and I looked hella cute too!!!

My Mother’s Day ensemble consisted of one of my fave new dresses – this completely adorable, floral T-shirt dress from ASOS, which is actually made from a wonderfully silky material, instead of the usual jersey, which was a pleasant and unexpected surprise.


      

I love it’s casual style and minimalist silhouette, and it paired perfectly with my cute, eye motif, espadrille flatforms (another ASOS find).


 I topped my look off with thee freaking coolest gold chain necklace and dice ring from Ready to Stare, and threw some more bling on my fingers for good measure, then I got ready to be showered with gifts for being the badass mom that I am!!!



No seriously, I hit the jackpot! My daughter made me some pretty paper flowers! I got a lovely bouquet from my middle son. My little guy drew me a picture at preschool – and I quote: “Mum, you’re the fat one.” Gahhh, I love it!!! My oldest son gave me the rare gift of shooting my blog photos without complaining even once, when I said just a few more. Like… Not even an eye roll (okay, maybe one)…


And for the cherry on top of my Mother’s Day sundae, the hubby picked me out an amazing perfume (La Vie Est Belle from Lancôme – SOOO nice) aaand, because he was looking so fresh, agreed to pose for so pictures!!! Whaaaaat!? I know right!? 

  

All in all, I can’t complain… I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again – I’m incredibly thankful for my family. They’re not perfect… My kids fight with each other (and me) like cats & dogs, my mum & grandmother both have a ridiculously well-honed ability to get under my skin, and my husband most definitely has his moments where I’d rather punch his face off instead of kiss it… But I wouldn’t trade any of them for the world, and I can only hope they feel the same way about me… Fingers crossed!!!


Dress, ASOS – here

Shoes, ASOS – here

Necklace, Ready to Stare – here

Dice ring, Ready to Stare – here

Hubby’s outfit, in case anyone’s curious:

Shirt, Forever 21 – similar style

Pants, Zara – similar

Belt, Coach – here

Shoes, ASOS – here

Confident to the Maxi

I remember when I first really noticed a woman in a maxi dress. It was sometime during the mid 2000s, and she had “the perfect body” (or at least the body I hadn’t realized yet, wasn’t the only kind anyone thought was beautiful). I’m sure I had seen others before her, sashaying about in ankle-length dresses, but this girl just caught my attention. In my still unaccepting-of-my-own-body mind, she was everything I wished I could be. Slim, large-breasted, beautiful, and she seemed to almost float along in that long, flowy dress like nothing else mattered but her and the breeze that lifted her hem every now and again, to reveal her ultra chic gladiator sandals, and perfect pedicure…

She was noticeable, right down to her bohemian, beaded necklace, and bangles that slid all the way up her slender arms, to her elbows when she lifted her hand to brush the hair from her face.

I realize now, all these years later, that what I was so captivated by wasn’t this girl’s seemingly perfect silhouette, but rather, her confidence.

I never would have guessed then, that I could feel as good as she looked in that dress… I never could have imagined that her intoxicating vibe was something that I could have for my very own… But now I see it. Now, finally after all these years, I love my body, and when I step out the door in a gorgeous maxi dress, I know I look just as striking as she did. I know I walk with the same ease and carelessness as I remember her doing so well… And I know others see it too.

See, it’s not about having the perfect body. It’s not about having slim arms, or large breasts. None of those things will ever give you the intangible quality that I couldn’t quite pin down, until I experienced what self-love truly was for myself.

That woman felt beautiful, and that’s what drew me to her. I feel beautiful, and that’s what was shining through when I wore this stunning maxi from SexyPlus Clothing.

Once I stepped into it, I didn’t want to take it off, so I decided to take my look from day to night!

For daytime, I paired it with pretty, embellished sandals, sunnies, a straw hat, gold bangles (of course) and my Lilly Pulitzer for Target straw bag (my only score from the great Lilly for Target fiasco/triumph).


     And for my evening look, I switched out my sandals, hat, and beach bag for a cute pair of cork wedges, a vintage clutch, a great necklace, and a fab black tuxedo style bolero from SexyPlus, and headed off for a date night with my hubby!

  

Maxi dresses are super versatile, and really transition well from day to evening. This particular one is so fun, because it combines animal print and paisley, for a really fun combination of wild and classic.

Just a little note, I actually sized down in this dress, as it is made very generously, but I would recommend ordering your usual size if you’re particularly boobalicious (which I’m not). I have very big hips, and as you can see, even when sizing down, the cut is roomy.

So, while I must admit, I still yearn for a set of bangles that can actually slide all the way up to my elbows (seriously, where can I get some of those?)… I feel pretty f*cking fabulous in this dress!!!  

I can say with a huge degree of certainty, that if I had known then, back when I first saw that woman looking effortlessly cool in her maxi, that the greatest detail of her outfit was her confidence, my life would have gone a lot differently… But the important thing is that one fine day, I did learn her secret. I did start to love myself, and now, I can rock a maxi like nobodies business, and it feels glorious!!! 

Because you’re all so amazing, please use, code FREEFLIGHT to get free shipping from SexyPlus from now till May 25th 2015! Don’t miss out! This dress is still available in this print, as well as in a couple of others!!!

Dress, SexyPlus – here or other prints, here & here 

Tuxedo bolero, SexyPlus – here or similar, here