Category: Body Acceptance

The Right To Bare Arms

The Right To Bare Arms

I have struggled with accepting my body my entire life. I’ve learned to accept my tummy, made peace with my love handles, and I’ve even grown to adore my big, round hips; but the one aspect of myself that I still have difficulty trying to come to terms with, are my arms.

I don’t remember the last time I wore something sleeveless without a cardigan, jacket, bolero or shawl. I think I was already self-conscious about my upper arms by the end of elementary school. In fact, I still can’t shake the feeling that they are in some way hideous, an embarrassment… Disgusting. I hate to feel this way though, because I deserve to show my arms just like anyone else – without shame, or the fear that someone might laugh or be offended.  So, I am making it my mission to get over my lingering insecurity and allow myself the right to bear my bare arms for the whole world to see.

So, here they are in all their chubby, bat-winged glory!!! And, to show them off in style, I’ve chosen this beautiful, turquoise colored, scuba knit dress from Forever 21+. The fabric is dense, yet lightweight and luxurious feeling, and the color is simply divine. I’ve paired it with a gorgeous chain fringe necklace from Addition Elle, whimsical knuckle ring from Forever 21 and simple, white patent, cork wedges by Marc Fisher, for an chic, sophisticated look.

I cannot yet, in all honesty, claim that I feel 100% at ease with my bare arms, but this is definitely a starting point.  And, who knows? Maybe one day I’ll learn to love my arm wattle as much as I love my hips!

Peace, Love and Color Blocking

Peace, Love and Color Blocking

I love 60′s inspired looks. Whether it be the early, short boxy jackets and pillbox hats, or the hippie style of bell bottoms and headbands seen towards the end of the decade – I love them all! But my absolute favorite looks were the products of the mid 60′s. Think mini skirts, geometric prints and color blocking. Think bold eyeliner and super light lips. It’s all so deliciously playful. So, it goes without saying that when I first laid eyes on this half & half, color blocked dress from Great Glam, a 60′s inspired look came immediately to mind.

There is something different, and so special about this dress, though. Instead of simple color blocking, the white side is textured with a tone on tone white pattern. I just love this revamped take on classic color blocking so much, that I decided instead of going straight up Twiggy, I would have my own crack at updating this mid 60′s look, too.

So, as an ode to the decade gone by, I mixed things up a bit, and combined the color blocking and the statement making makeup style of the mid 60′s with the elegance of the early years, as you can tell by my beehive inspired bun, and my modern take on Jackie Kennedy’s iconic, multi-strand pearl necklaces. Then, as a subtle nod to the tail end of the decade, a silver peace sign bracelet to tie everything all together.

Oddly enough, despite basically embodying the entire span of 60′s fashion at once, this look is still fresh; and I had such a blast thinking it up, and finding a way to stitch it all together seamlessly!

Harem Pants

Harem Pants

I don’t know about you, and I know everyone is shaped differently; but depending on what I wear, I have, what I like to call “bumtum”. Bumtum, you ask?

Definition of Bumtum: noun \ˈbəmˈtəm\
When your tummy takes on the appearance of a bum when wearing clothes (usually pants) with a seam up the front, thus giving the impression that you not only have butt in the back, but one in the front, too.

So, now that that’s cleared up, lets talk about harem pants. They are everywhere, and have been trending for a while now.  But I’ve been hesitating, and if you’re anything like me, you’ll understand, they can be a bit tricky, because not only are they high-waisted, they also have saggy fronts which can only accentuate your bumtum!  That being said, don’t give up hope!!!  With a little help from shapewear (which I briefly discussed my love/hate relationship with, in my recent post, “Fat Girl Problems“) and the right top or belt, it is possible to make them work!

When I saw these leopard print harem pants from Forever21+ I knew they would be a challenge, but I just wanted to try so badly!!!  I quickly realized that they would be more difficult to wear than I had thought…  My Spanx alone just weren’t cutting it.  I had to break out the big guns and wear my faux leather peplum belt from Addition Elle, which I had nabbed about a year ago, but never really found the right way to wear.  I had tried a couple of looks with it, but they just always looked off, somehow.  Anyway, I figured it was worth a shot, so I went for it, and I think it was exactly what these pants needed!  Since they have a very bold cut and pattern, and the belt is also quite a statement on it’s own, I went with a very simple black top, and black & gold flats to draw some of the attention away from my mostly disguised bumtum.  I can’t say that I was able to hide it completely, but I definitely felt confident with the end result; and, who am I trying to fool, anyhow?  It’s not like having a flatter tummy would trick anyone into thinking I’m skinny!  Haha!

So my advice to you is, if you are a fellow bumtum sufferer, and are looking to try and get in on the harem pant trend:  Always wear shapewear underneath, and try to find a great peplum belt, like this one, or a cute peplum top, which you can belt or wear on its own.  The reality is, with just about every look, even if you think it won’t flatter your body, it never hurts to try, because you may actually be surprised with what you can do to make it work for you!

Flower Power

Flower Power

It’s March!!! And while there’s still a thick layer of snow covering the ground, I am starting to see the light at the end of the long winter tunnel. The days are getting longer, the sun is feeling warmer and just the idea that soon enough we’ll be seeing the spring flowers start to peek up out through the cold ground has me feeling renewed.

So, to celebrate those flowers that will soon making their annual appearance, I’m wearing these fun, floral leggings from Forever21+. They are joyful, bright and just so happen to be extremely comfortable, which is always a bonus!

I’ve paired them with a royal blue, 2-way tank top from Addition Elle, my favorite tone on tone, black leopard print, 3/4 length sleeve jacket from Penningtons, multi-strand, beaded jewelry and my cute, white patent leather Aldo flats for a casual, whimsical look that infuses even more warmth into an already fading winter.

I Am Woman, Hear Me “Rawr”

Yay! The big day has come!!! What day, you ask? Why, the day I finally get to wear the incredibly sexy “Tricia” dress from Monif C. of course!!!

I’ve been obsessing over this dress since it was first posted in January for pre-sale, and I haven’t stopped coveting it since. At first I had reservations. I loved it, but wasn’t sure how I felt about the idea of a crop top. I know they’re all the rage right now, and I think they look super sexy, but I couldn’t cease thinking – how is a dress with a crop top going to look on the tummy of a mum of four who’s covered in stretch marks?

So, I went back and forth on the idea for a little while and then finally decided – so what if I have stretch marks!? I’ve been working so hard to accept my body and love the skin I’m in; am really going to let the insecurities I have about my stretch marks stop me when I’ve already come so far!? They are the product of carrying each of my four children in my womb – four little humans who depended on me, and still do, to live. They remind me of the sacrifices that I’ve made for my family and of how, no matter what happens, I gave life to four beautiful beings who are, and always will be a part of me and who I love with a love that is stronger than any other force imaginable. To be ashamed of my stretch marks is to be ashamed of my four greatest accomplishments and nothing about that makes sense.

In a way, this dress and my desire for it, somehow managed to push me to face a fear, to let go of my inhibitions and accept just one more aspect about my body that I had been insecure about. I don’t know if it was the fierce turquoise and tan animal print or the bodycon style that Monif C. dresses do so well, but it made me realize that this tiger momma has earned her stripes and I’m not gonna hide them anymore!!!

Rawr!!!

Ahoy Matey!

Ahoy!

Nautical themed clothing has been around for ages, and we all know the stereotype of the miserable, long faced kid, who’s been forced into a sailor suit (even though he is much too old for it) by his overbearing mum (often wearing a matching outfit) for a family portrait… Right?

Well… This look, while having a nautical vibe, is far from being the sailor suit in an awkward family photo. The striking navy and red color block “Marcie” dress from Monif C. is sporty yet sophisticated. I’ve paired it with lovely, white patent leather flats from Aldo, and gold jewelry to really anchor this look’s nautical feel without going overboard.  Having at least one fantastic nautical look in your wardrobe is a great way to ensure that your transition into spring will be smooth sailing!

I’d love to see some of your spring looks! Please email me your photos at flightofthefatgirl@gmail.com or hashtag me in your pics on instagram (@flightofthefatgirl) and I will choose somebody to feature on my Facebook page next week!

Don’t Be a Square

Don't Be a Square

It’s been an interesting couple of days as I’ve been trying to expand Flight of the Fat Girl’s social media presence; and I have to say a huge thank you to all of those who have liked my Facebook page, and have taken the time to follow me on Instagram for a more behind the scenes look! I’d also like to thank the handful of folks who have followed me on Twitter, which I am pretty new to, so bear with me, and keep the eLove coming!

Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, let’s get down to business! In light of my recent expansion into the realms of social media, I’ve decided this adorable dress from Great Glam (or tunic style top if you’re feeling modest) was the perfect way to honor the occasion!

There is something about this dress that reminds me of a retro computer game. The squares mimic the pixelated images I remember so fondly and who could forget the high contrast look of bright color on black!?!? That being said, it’s definitely a modern look with its faux silhouette design and bodycon cut; and let me tell you, it fits like a glove.

I’ve kept the accessories simple, since the fabric of this dress alone, makes such a bold statement already, and I’ve gone with an understated black leather wedge from Aldo, a cool silver cuff bracelet from Armani Exchange that really picks up on the square theme, and matte, red nail polish.

After these past few days, I’m definitely feeling like less of a square and much more tech savvy; and in this great dress, I’m looking the part too! Now, if only I could just figure out Twitter… Ha.

The Right Red

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Red is such a fantastic color, and so versatile; but finding the right red isn’t always easy.

I have very fair, pinkish, freckled skin and reddish brown eyes; and red can be a tricky color for me to wear. I tend to look better in more orangey (somehow that word doesn’t look right) toned reds rather than blue toned reds. The warmth of the orange warms up my skin tone and balances its natural cool undertones. The reality is though, there is so much conflicting information out there on skin tone do’s and don’ts, that it just comes down to what you feel works on you; and I really think this red compliments my complexion, whether it is “supposed to” or not.  Ha!

The peasant style of this blouse from Addition Elle is so much fun. I just love the color and the way it drapes on my body. I’ve put my hair in a simple, messy side braid and paired the look with a great pair of jeans by Buffalo, cute tan flats and some amazing wood and metal jewelry for a relaxed, stylish look that packs a bright red punch!

 

Blouse, jeans, shoes – Addition Elle

Wooden bracelet – local market in Haiti

Wooden ring – Kalung Boutique

Denying Winter

Denying Winter

Even though we’ve just had another snowstorm here in Montreal, which made for a bit of a wet, sloppy Valentine’s Day (some may argue, that’s the best kind… haha) I am still firmly in denial of winter.

In fact, I am so much in denial, that I have decided not only to rock white pants today, (yes, leggings are pants) but a white/floral top too! I am positively in love with this top (or dress, if you’re in the mood to show a lot of leg) from Great Glam. It’s sweet, cheerful and its floral print is sublime, reminding me of a beautiful springtime watercolor painting. I’ve paired the look with a vibrant blue flat from Payless to tie everything together for a fun, relaxed look that can stick it to winter in style!

Just a side note, Great Glam sizes run small and short, order at least one size up. They market the majority of their pieces as dresses, but especially since I’m tall(ish) and have a long torso, I find that their shorter length items work better as tops, except those times I’m feeling a little risqué because lets face it, it’s been known to happen!

Formalwear Triumph

Formal Wear Triumph

From the time of my grade six dances until very recently, finding the right dress to wear to a formal event was a struggle. It was always so tough to find a dress that encompassed all the aspects I was looking for to assure that I felt beautiful and comfortable all night long. I often had to make compromises when buying dresses, giving up a great neckline for a flattering cut or vice versa; and let me tell you, many tears were shed from these eyes in the name of formalwear, you have no idea!

Thankfully, online shopping has opened up a whole new world to me, and other curvy ladies who have known the struggle of trying to buy trendy, sexy plus size clothing throughout the 90′s; and especially the fight to find stylish formal dresses that actually flatter our figures! With so many sites, like Monif C. and Igigi to name a couple, full of stunning dresses just ripe for the picking I am finally now able to obtain all of what I look for in a dress – a great cut, usually bodycon with a sexy neckline, the perfect length, usually knee length or mid-calf, and a sleeve, preferably 3/4, because I still haven’t accepted my body enough to be at one with my upper arms (but it’s coming). In fact, online shopping has made my criteria so easy to find, that I am now bombarded by choices that I never would have dreamed of in the past – choices that celebrate my curves rather than try to hide them.

This particular pick, Ambrosia, from Igigi by Yuliya Raquel is really stunning. It hugs me in all the right places, the length is just right, it has a great 3/4 sleeve, a sexy V-neckline, and the color is simply divine. I do feel like “my girls” could be a little bigger to fill this dress up a bit more, but I don’t think it causes a major issue. Overall, I really love it, especially paired with a vintage gold colored necklace, a bold pair of dangly earrings and a fantastic light gold pump from Payless and the confidence I feel while wearing it is the best part!