No, Honey 

I’m 100% body positive. I love my fat peeps, my skinny peeps, my short, tall, black, white, and everything-in-between peeps! I truly believe that every body is beautiful in its own unique way.

I’ve been fat my whole life. Even when I was suffering from anorexia and bulimia, and had shed over 100 lbs. In my mind, I was still fat.


It took me a hell of a lot of hard work to learn that I was worth loving. The fact that I truly believe it is something I’m proud of, because that realization may come easily to some, but it didn’t for me.

When somebody tries to take that kind of self-love away from me, or from anyone — I get angry.


I’m so sick of seeing women tear each other down in order to build themselves up!


Because I’m fat and pretty, it doesn’t mean you can’t be pretty and thin!


There is more than one way to be beautiful, and more than enough beauty in this world to go around!


Who is anyone to assume that it has anything to do with size?


Size is a tangible thing. You can see size, measure it — feel it… Beauty is all in our heads.


What I’m really trying to say here is — if you’re thin, go ahead and believe that you’re prettier than me. If that’s how you see it, than to you, it’s the truth.


But know, that my truth looks different. In my mind, the fact that you are thin doesn’t automatically qualify you to be beautiful.


Thinness isn’t a prerequisite to beauty — kindness is.



So no, honey. If you can’t see that your beauty standards do not define me, then just know that you’re thinner than me — not prettier — and don’t get the two confused.


Crop top, Flaws of Couture – here

Skirt, Eloquii – here

Clutch, Aldo – similar

Shoes, Payless – here

PS. Here are a few things I find beautiful, from an abandoned building, one of my favourite places to shoot!


  
  

10 comments

  1. Ice_Badger

    Hear hear!!

    I applaud this! For so long (possibly for ever) people (mostly women) have been bending over backwards to fit the “ideal beauty standard” which when (if) they ever do they discover that this a) doesn’t make them happy and 2) has moved on to another arbitrary beauty fad!

    It is lovely to see someone standing up and saying I love the way I am without bringing others down in the process!! So many women (sadly) think it is ok to make themselves feel better by belittling others, it is high time we all realised that it is time to stop!!

    PS I love your blue hair! I really want blue hair…but it is currently half orange due to a bleaching incident which I like to call an experiment 🙂

  2. Michelle

    It took me a long time to love my Beauty as a plus size woman. I totally agree with you. You Go Girl. I enjoy reading your post.
    P.s i need that shirt !!!!!!!!

  3. BrendaM

    I love reading you blog and can’t wait to open it to see what fabulous outfit you are wearing. Your confidence shines through in all of your pictures and post. Oh – and you are really rocking that hair colour.

  4. Beth

    I sincerely hope you do not take offense to what I’m about to say.
    When I first came across you, your blog, your Facebook page, I hated it. I’m not going to go into why because its neither here nor there. I realized recently that I hated your confidence. Somewhere deep inside I felt compelled to not like you because you don’t look like the “perfect” woman we’ve been programmed to recognize through media and print. I hated that I recognized myself in you and couldn’t fathom how you loved yourself when I didn’t love me. Then I realized that I can love myself. I am perfect just as I am, just as you are perfect just as you are. I guess this is just a long winded way of saying thank you. I’ve wasted so much time with self-hate and you are one of a few reasons why I now choose to love myself. I’m not one to leave comments of this sort but I felt that today’s post spoke to me and I felt compelled to say thank you. 🙂

    • Beth

      I re-read and realized I wasn’t very clear, I don’t hate you! I actually look forward to your posts after coming to terms with my own self hate issues. Sorry if that was unclear!

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