Lose Hate, Not Weight

So, I was called fat and ugly in front of my kids today by a woman who didn’t like hearing the truth.

While I was in a parking lot, driving away from the store, I witnessed a man in his car, cut off another car (this woman’s) as he left his parking spot. The woman stopped, rolled down her window and screamed at the man, who had a thick accent, calling him a son if a b*tch, and telling him to go back to his f*cking country.

As the man drove off, I looked at the woman like “really!?”

IMG_3534-1.JPGShe then pulled up next to my car with a grin, as if I were about to take her side… But I wasn’t. I told her what she said was wrong. Yes, he should have signalled, but I was disgusted by the words she chose to say to this man, who honestly, just made a mistake. See, my husband is a Haitian immigrant, and I would lose my sh*t if anyone ever spoke that way to him!!!

As she tried to defend herself, I rolled up my window, not having any of it. My son continued to look at her, so she drove around to the other side of the car, got out, and attempted to open his door! Like, really!? Luckily, I had locked them.

Frustrated that she couldn’t do whatever it was that she wanted to do to him, she began to scream at me through our closed windows “go on a diet (accompanied by gestures) you fat b*tch, you’re fat and ugly!!!” I just looked her straight in the eye, grinned, and she got back in her car and drove off unsatisfied by my lack of reaction.

All this, in front of my children. I’m so disgusted that she would be so low, but I am not insulted. She, and people like her, just continue to motivate me and fuel my mission. Her ignorance and lack of respect only make me realize how important what I’m doing truly is!!!

I am fat! Nobody can use that to insult me! And although I wish it hadn’t happened, I’m still glad my children got to see how strong I am and how her words of hate did not shake me.

IMG_3521.JPGJust figured I’d share, in case any of you ever need a bit of strength when facing a bully; and I’ll also take this opportunity to thank you all once again for being a part of my journey – you have no idea how much you keep me inspired!!!

Winter White Legs

IMG_3397.JPGSo… I don’t do the tanning thing, and no matter the season, these are how my legs look; but I’ve never really noticed it, or thought to address it quite as much as I did the other day when I decided to expose my pasty-whites against a backdrop of snow.

IMG_3436.JPGSee, I have a hard time with pantyhose. I honestly don’t know if there is anyone else there with this problem, but… The skin on the insides of my thighs is so soft and thin, that it actually seeps through the weaving of the pantyhose and I end up getting worse chub rub than if I had worn nothing at all. I’ve tried sizing up, I’ve tried different brands – nothing works. I’ve just accepted it. This is my hose-less life; and it is why you’ll see that I’m never wearing them no matter what the weather.

THERE! I said it!

I’ve actually gotten quite used to it, though. Despite my grandmother thinking I’m nuts, I don’t really get cold. Obvi I’m not choosing these types of outfits for activities where I will be spending any extended period in the cold outdoors, but barelegged, wintertime looks have been known to happen.

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IMG_3435.JPGI also love how this transitional weather gives me a good excuse to wear adorable ruffled socks!

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IMG_3373.JPGAnd my faux-fur vest from Addition Elle, which works so perfectly over this fab sheer, burgundy blouse which I scored at the BIG Deal Toronto, closet sale from fellow plus size style blogger, Jessica, of Clothes and Shit. What can I say, the girl’s got taste!

IMG_3364.JPGNow, I can’t say that I wouldn’t love to find the perfect pair of pantyhose… But it just hasn’t happened for me yet.

IMG_3379.JPGSo until then, I will be blinding the public with my legs, year round, with no apologies! I’ve always been a rebel, anyway. Take that, grandma!!! 😛

Be sure to check out Jessica on www.clothesandshit.com and don’t forget to follow her, @jesskuuh on Instagram!!!

Vest, Addition Elle – here
Purse, Aldo – here
Denim overall skirt, Forever 21+ – here
Necklace, Old Navy – similar
Socks, Ardène – similar

Scarf Season

As we transition from fall to winter here in Montreal, outerwear is essential; and since most people tend to keep their outerwear through several winters, the best way to change up your look and refresh your cold-weather gear is to have fun with scarves!

I have here, a fab selection of gorgeous eternity scarves from indie designer, New Flair Accessories! I’ve used them to breathe new life into my old coat and jacket selection, and add some affordable excitement & style to my winter wardrobe this season!

Each scarf is handmade with love, out of a fantastic variety of luxe fabrics. From sheer to polar fleece, you can be sure to find the right scarf to fit your look, whether you’re style is super traditional, or more on the edgy side of the spectrum.

The first scarf is a made of a really soft jersey. I love its neutral animal print, and the way it accentuates the silver and black ensemble I’ve paired it with.

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This next one is another jersey scarf, with thee most fabulous butterfly print!!! I love how bright and cheerful it is – like a little reminder that summer will be here again one day; and how perfectly it works with my royal blue wool coat!

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And for those days when you’re really looking to keep cozy, but not sacrifice style, here is a gorgeous black and gold neck warmer type scarf, that compliments my sporty chic jacket to perfection!

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Now, when I mentioned the transition from fall to winter, I meant it! The holiday season is upon us, so a stunning, long length infinity scarf is the perfect way to keep warm! (And a great accessory to showcase my new haircut in!!!)

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And last, but certainly not least – in fact, probably my favorite scarf of the bunch, this amazing, jade green jersey scarf, lined with ribbed black velour – the perfect holiday scarf to spruce up any outfit or coat, with just a hint of sparkle.

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All scarves, New Flair Avcessories – here
Check out New Flair Accessories on Facebook – here

A Big Girl In A Body Chain

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Some plus size things are harder to find than others; and when it comes to body jewelry, it can be next to impossible to find something to fit our frames – or so I thought, until I discovered Canadian jewelry designer, Cristy Ellen K!!!

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Cristy Ellen, the lady behind the brand, is an up and coming indie jewelry designer with belief that great style is great style, regardless of size!

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Her passion for her work shines through in her amazing, one-of-a-kind, pieces; and each piece is handcrafted with love, and attention to detail.

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While, when it comes to body jewelry, Cristy Ellen specializes in plus size pieces, she says “I make double zero to 6X because every body is beautiful.”

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Not only is the body positive philosophy of Cristy Ellen K inspiring, but her pieces are just so freaking cool!!!

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I mean… A plus size body chain that actually wraps around my waist at the hip and fits!? Craziness!!!

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Wearing it brought out my inner glam-rocker chick, so I slapped on some winged liner (more like, very carefully applied, trying super hard not to screw up) and paired it with my favourite (my only) jumpsuit & denim jacket, from ASOS Curve, some cute black & gold flats, and a pale grey, vintage leather clutch, for a edgy look that made me feel so fierce that I’m actually a little embarrassed to admit how many pics I was giving my resting bitch face (AKA the stink eye) in. Hahaaa!

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So check out Cristy Ellen K and see all the fab pieces she has to offer, and keep your eyes open for more of her pieces here on the blog!

Body chain, Cristy Ellen K – here
Jumpsuit, ASOS Curve – here

October 2014 Recap

October was a big month, filled with a lot of great outfits!!!

I wore a couple of fab dresses from Voluptuous Clothing, thigh high (wide calf) boots from SexyPlus, an amazing fringed kimono, and a show stopping geo cape from Zelie For She.

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I rocked crimped hair and a cream coloured coat, boyfriend jeans from Penningtons with a gorgeous, yellow, Ted Baker clutch, and some vintage Burberry & a graphic tank from Addition Elle.

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Last but not least, I posted a collab project with my blogger boo, Crystal, of Sometimes Glam, where we played dress up and pretty much just giggled the entire time!

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As full as October has been, I can’t wait to see what this holiday season will bring!

All outfit details available in October’s blog posts.

Celebrating In Yellow Tweed

So, as many of you already know, yesterday was my 32nd birthday!!! Yay!!!

It was also the day that launched the Flight of the Fat Girl YouTube channel, where I will touch base with you in weekly (if not more often) videos, in all my awkward, on-camera glory!!! Yayyy… I think… Ha!

No fashionista’s birthday would be complete without a birthday outfit, so to celebrate I wore this gorgeous, cropped, mustard colour, tweed jacket from Elvi.

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If you’ve never shopped at Elvi, you NEED to start!!! I am totally in love with everything they have to offer – the definition of class and elegance.

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I can’t get enough of this jacket’s classic lines, rich yellow color, and how comfortable and versatile it is. Its sophisticated silhouette is an asset to any plus size wardrobe, and its satiny lining feels luxurious, and slips beautifully over anything from bare arms to cotton sleeves; like those of my pretty, eShakti, navy and yellow dress!

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Paired with an elegant nude patent pump, a stunning handmade African necklace, a wooden, beaded bracelet from a local market in Haiti, and a great, minimalist clutch from Forever 21 – I was ready for the birthday celebrations to begin!

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Don’t forget to check out my first YouTube video, and to subscribe to my channel; and be sure to visit elvi.co.uk to browse their fabulously chic clothing line!

Jacket, Elvi – here
Dress, eShakti – similar
Shoes, Payless – here
Clutch, Forever 21 – here